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Asked by kshives1027

Q: Wow...your only how many weeks?! You look way bigger!

Okay, so I am pregnant with my second baby after one healthy, ten lb baby 6 years ago, and multiple miscarriages. I popped out quickly, around 9 weeks, and concede that I do look further along than I am. It's hurtful when people point it out though, especially since two other people in my circle are pregnant and due with their second babies within two weeks of me and aren't showing yet, which everyone points out. I like to tell them, I have actually lost weight due to not eating junk as much, but they say I look 5 or 6 months along. I even talked to my doctor about it. He said not to worry, as the muscles are stretched from my 10 lb. baby and would just pop quicker, but not get bigger for a while, which is what is happening. Anyone else dealing with people saying they are too big for how far along they are? What are your suggestions for getting people to stop commenting, as that last thing I want to hear is how I apparently look like a whale already.

This question was asked Jul. 2, 2013 10:13pm
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Answered by hopefullll - Jul. 3, 2013 8:20pm

This is the way I see it: I don't get offended only because I haven't gained much weight thus far. So when they say, "wow, is it twins?" I know for certain that it's the baby bump they are referring to and not the fact that I look like I've packed on the weight all over. Now, having said that, if I looked like I had had gained too much weight for where I am in my pregnancy and that's what people were pointing out I would be super offended and hurt. Either way, people should really know better! Just think though, there are lots of pregnant ladies who would be super jealous of your bump and who are dying to show earlier. I say if you got it, flaunt it!

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Answered by kshives1027 - Jul. 3, 2013 2:58pm

Thank you ladies! I appreciate all the feedback and positivity! I had it happen twice yesterday and was having an emotional day anyway. Great to know I am not alone. :o)

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Answered by Quartz3 - Jul. 3, 2013 1:04pm

I say, laugh a little, smille and say: "well, that was insulting!"
People are not trying to be mean, they're just commenting without really thinking through what they're saying... so I like to point out the fact that they're being insensitive without going all hormonal on them.
If it's any consolation, I do not look further along than I really am, and I still have people saying I'm gonna have a big baby.... but I have other people say I'm still very small! People really have no clue what you're supposed to look like - and really, there is no "template" for how you're supposed to look. The important thing is that you don't let anybody get you down. You're pregnant and you're beautiful!

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Answered by trina_76 - Jul. 3, 2013 11:37am

I'm am also bigger then what I should be but when I tell people I'm 4 months and they say wow you look like your 6 months I say thank you because I'm happy to be showing and have a healthy baby growing inside me this is my sec baby don't let it make you mad they are not trying to rude they are just surprised on how big your getting I love having my big baby bump

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Answered by estone - Jul. 3, 2013 2:59am

I look further along than I am too. You're not the only one. I just had my son last September, so I know that's why I'm showing so much already. I haven't had others comment yet, but I would just be straight up with them and tell them they are rude for saying it. If it is strangers, I would just tell them I'm due earlier., then you don't even have to hear it good luck

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Answered by mommx3 - Jul. 2, 2013 11:11pm

I feel the same way. I popped very early and look 6 or 7 months pregnant at 4 months. Doctor said the same thing as yours, muscles have been there done that so they stretch faster. But when people ask how far along I am and I say 4 months they say things like, "Really, is it twins?!" Or "Oh my god, it's gonna be a big baby!" Which neither are true. finally when strangers ask how far along I am I just say, "none of your business." It freaks the, out and they get offended but I don't care, I don't know them and don't need their judgement! If its someone I know, explain to them that women show faster with 2nd and 3rd babies, and they will understand. But my suggestion is that you just don't tell nosy strangers how far along you are. What even makes them think its okay to ask in the first place is beyond me,but people are just disrespectful nowadays.

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