Questions & Answers

Whatever you decide I think it will be special to you. I don't think anyone has ever regretted finding out or waiting until delivery. I could have won that battle with my husband but this is our first baby and I wanted him to feel like he had a say in how some of my pregnancy goes since most of it he has to spectate. It really meant a lot to him to do a party and to know and seeing his joy made it worth it for me. It's kind of harsh to say that people who find out are impatient-some people like to plan and know what to expect and some have an easier time just rolling with it. It doesn't make one type of person wrong. You will have great memories and much joy no matter what you do! Good luck!! I suggest having a heart-to-heart with your husband about why it's important to him and how you feel about it so you can both come to an agreement that you both feel good about. Who knows, maybe you'll find a solution where you can both have it the way you want it!

I didn't find out for my baby and it was honestly the most exciting and special thing ever! I lifted him up on my chest and I got to be the first one to see what he was. I will definitely be keeping it a surprise for the next baby. People are just impatient and I honesty HATE when people say what will we buy you and that I needed to know so I could have the room prepared. There are HEAPS of baby items people can buy you that have nothing to do with gender. And to be honest my baby slept in a bassinet in our room until he was 6 months old so there was really no rush to finish his room. As for the clothing issue I brought a girl outfit and a boy outfit to bring baby home in and like I loved to point out to people the baby will survive wearing white clothes until I go to the shop (Which was literally 5 minutes away) . Don't let peoples silly excuses turn you off wanting a surprise.

Oh its fun not knowing :) and you can totally have a bbyshower. Just be specific on what your theme is. Like you could do a color theme or a gender neutral theme like nursery rhymes or a certain animal theme. Its really fun not knowing the gender. I have found that I am getting more practical gifts because we don't know the gender. I had a baby shower for both my daughter and son and I got tons of gender specific things that were so pointless Lol. But that's up to you Cuz once that ultrasound comes around its hard not to just find out :)

I thought I wanted to wait but my husband doesn't like surprises and everyone kept telling me there are enough surprises on delivery day that it's not the worst thing knowing. By the time we got to gender reveal day I was tired of saying "it" or "the baby" and I love knowing that I'm having a son. We still have purchased all gender neutral things except a few outfits-it is really fun when we see something adorable for a boy or girl not having to pass it up because we don't know. It has helped my husband bond and I feel closer to my baby. Everyone is different, though, so you and your spouse will have to decide. I thought I was compromising by doing the gender reveal party (we didn't know when we cut the cake so we got to find out with our family and friends) but I'm glad we did-we have amazing photos of our reactions and it was a wonderful memory. I can't wait to hold my little boy in my arms!

We didn't find out until my son was born and it was the best surprise life could have given me especially since I was certain he was going to be a girl. I didn't want to get a bunch of blue or pink things anyways because what if our next kid is the other gender then we have to buy everything new! I loved keeping it a guessing game and just wondering for 9 months. It didn't bother me that I didn't know and it seriously was the best to hear the doctor say "Its a BOY!"

I'm all for knowing what you're having ahead of time. I think it helps Daddy and your older kids start building a bond mentally with the baby if they can put a name, or at least the proper pronoun to this little person they are preparing for. I've found out early with all three of mine and i was always glad i did. It makes it so much more real to be able to say 'he' or 'she' instead of 'it' or 'the baby'. It's actually really helped me too. I was having a hard time feeling really attached to this pregnancy after so many losses, and knowing what's in there has helped me create a bond too. My husband and i have settled on a name already and it felt good to be able to do that. But really, it's up to you. I personally don't think i have the patience to wait it out the full 40 weeks to find out! lol

I was in the same position as you. I wanted to just be surprised, then I wanted to find out, but not tell everyone else until the baby was born, then toyed with the idea of a gender reveal. We ended up having a gender reveal party. However, my 6 year old, my husband, and myself found out on Thursday with blue balloons popping out of the toy box my father in law built for my daughter when she was born. We waited til Sunday for anyone else to know and we had a cake that was blue on the inside. Everyone found out when we cut the cake, which we let our daughter do. You have to go with your gut, but I will tell you that our main reason for telling everyone is that we felt our daughter needed to know to better prepare her for a baby and there is no way she could have kept that secret. It is hard to find gender neutral clothing, but you know what? It is your baby so essentially you need to do what you feel is best for you and the family.