Questions & Answers

What does your husband want?

Maybe say that you would prefer to have a meet the baby party a few weeks after baby is born and that gifts are not required you can also hint that maybe gift cards and diapers/wipes would be the most preferred if they really feel a gift is a must or a donation to your favorite children's charity maybe...? I know that you are feeling like the shower is unnecessary and maybe for the gifts it is but I think that your friends would be greatly disappointed and feel shunned and left out of this exciting time if you don't let them participate in some way, sometimes its not really about us, they just want to do something to show you love, support and that they are there for you. Would it really be so bad to let them throw you a party? especially since they seem soo determined to do it for you....? just a thought :)

Baby shower!! Family time.. I think its a great idea to have one even if your on your 3rd or 4th kid.. its not always about getting gifts but the time you get to spend with family and friends thats not during the hassle and bustle of the holidays or over a kids birthday where you feel obligated to get or give gifts..Have the Family shower for a fun event... Take pictures and enjoy it!! showers are about family and friends... Gifts are nice but not a have to.. make sure your baby shower guest know that and you might be surprised and have a great time..

My husband can careless either way... Our wedding anniversary is March 1st, so we are going on a baby moon to Hollywood! I am very excited for that. We have talked about a sip and see and I love the idea of that but my friends and family want us to have both. Ugh!!!

Seriously they are so annoying! Hahaha... love them though for wanting to bless us!

I was thinking of a gender reveal party in lieu of a shower & having it at our house. Allow family to help, but have control and say no gifts, or just diaper donations. That way you satisfy the do goodeats & still maintain control. Just a thought. That's what I'm hoping to do at least.

I'm not doing a shower either even though it's my first boy. Instead we're doing a Mother Blessing/Blessingway. It's a get together honoring the mom.

https://esali9.wordpress.com/2013/11/16/planablessingway/

http://dailymom.com/expect/the-blessingway-celebrate-mom-before-the-birth/?utm_source=Daily+Mom+Newsletter&utm_medium=email&utm_campaign=5504cf96c4-Daily+Newsletter&utm_term=0_88a0ec4040-5504cf96c4-57272805

http://birthwithoutfearblog.com/2014/10/14/10-tips-to-plan-a-blessingway/


or you can also do a 'Sip and see" when you invite people over for a gathering AFTER the baby is born

Maybe you could suggest just a sprinkle or a lunch with no gifts instead of a full-on shower...You definitely get a way - and I think it is ok to say no - but a little celebration is never out of order...