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Q: Still no sex because bf automatically thinks I'm "loose" since giving birth...help!

Currently 8 weeks postpartum making it 10 weeks since last time of dtd.

I'm getting emotionally hurt because he wants nothing to do with it and I can't go much longer without it . I had my suspicions that it was because of giving birth but confirmed it today when he admitted to it ....

I'm seriously hurt.

I don't know what to do ...advice please

This question was asked Jan. 17, 2015 2:39am
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Answered by Papas~Mama - Jan. 18, 2015 1:03am

O.M.G. what a jerkface! I only have one thing to say - I damn sure hope you're not puttin' his d*ck in your mouth or doing any damn favors for him;) Buy yourself a vibrator bigger than him and make sure he sees it, lol! That's just ignorant and proves how little he knows about vaginas. Sorry:(

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Answered by Joriefm - Jan. 17, 2015 2:53am

Oh baby doll....:/

I wish I could take the hurt away! I know how it feels to be "rejected" physically by hubby (mine told me I've gained too much weight and he wasn't attracted to me any more, OUCH). But just let the hurt resinate, let the feelings show and the pain will lessen over time. There isn't much you can do about how he see's it. Of course, he's WRONG. Because we all know the vagina is meant to return PRETTY close to its natural shape. Maybe the sight of the entire ordeal had just shaken him? I hope he eventually learns your vagina and vulva haven't really changed and will still feel amazing!!

**HUGS** Keep your chin up. Right now he needn't be makin' you feel "worse" about your body, postpartum is hard enough as it is. He needs some sensitivity 101, I tell ya! Maybe ours can go to class together.. ;)

xoxo <3

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Answered by Kitten90 - Jan. 18, 2015 12:24am

I can't believe he still hasn't come around yet =(

I'm in kind of the opposite scenario now.. I don't want to have sex anymore because now that I'm fully healed up I actually AM looser than before lol. =/ It's super awkward for me because the opening is tighter from all the tearing and stitching and whatnot. Been doing kegels religiously too lol.

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Answered by princess2095 - Jan. 18, 2015 5:21pm

Yeah the day that happens the world will end:/

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Answered by Mommatoboys - Jan. 18, 2015 1:54pm

I'm so sorry he's making you feel this way:(. Your body did an amazing thing creating, supporting, and delivering his child. Seriously, if doing all that was the man's job we would be extinct! Yes things are going to be a bit different down there but it should get back to the way it was before long, just keep doing kegal's they do help. I can't imagine how hurt you must feel, I know I would be crush and pissed. Keep your head up because you are beautiful and doing a wonderful job with your baby girl. I hope he realizes how foolish he is being and treats you the way you deserve.

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Answered by princess2095 - Jan. 17, 2015 3:24am

Lol! Your awesome ! I have a desk job as well and I swear that's why I had so much water weight during pregnancy. I just hope things get better I'm sick of feeling down ugh. And yes u should lol!

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Answered by princess2095 - Jan. 17, 2015 4:12pm

Thanks ladies I guess time will tell :/

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Answered by princess2095 - Jan. 19, 2015 5:02pm

Yeah mine was the exact same way . Just sucks :/

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Answered by princess2095 - Jan. 17, 2015 2:58am

Aw thanks they should really have a class lol! I got cleared by doctor at 6 weeks and she told me it was set to go and he was there for that apt. Still didn't care. To make things worse my bday is Iin 4 days and he agreed to try then now I started spotting so he won't if I still am at that point. It just gets better and better. I'm so sick of feeling rejected/hurt/ unattractive. I don't get it I lost the majority of the weight just have a little in my thighs and stretch marks ugh

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Answered by aprilluvsmoz - Jan. 17, 2015 3:37pm

Everything will work itself out. You are beautiful, strong and worth the affection and attention.I would definitely make him aware of your needs and let him know he has had you on a roller coaster about sex since you have been pregnant until now. Try to not let yourself get down pretty soon the wait will kill him and he will come around.

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