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My new OB didn't want to see me until I was 10 weeks but I sort of threw a fit and told them I needed to be seen before the 10 week mark. I think most DR's are like this unless its to confirm the pregnancy. If your a high risk like I am I would demand to be seen more.

My OB doesnt even see his patients until 12 weeks along unless they are high risk. He says befofe then there is really nothing you can do. He doesnt do any ultrasounds except the anatomy one.

and not just doctors. No one is invested in my pregnancy but me right now. This is my first. It took 5 years in and out doctors and other uterine issues to deal with first. When I got the first test that showed the second line no one believed it because it was light. Not a squinter, just light. The next day it was darker and still no one was excited. I got my betas done just for them. The fertility clinic said we don't normally do this, we just get you to come do a pee test. I said I did one and no one believed the positive. So I need a blood test. It became a little more real for people then. But my grandmother told me to call her back in 5 days because, for her, it was too soon (I had just seen her 2 weeks before and got my smiley opk at her house), and my sister didn't hug me until I had my second beta to confirm it doubled properly.
My husband isn't outwardly excited about it at all. He says he won't feel it's real until he sees it in the ultrasound.

It is unfortunate, but yes most doctors are the same way in the 1st trimester. 1 out of 4 women have a mc before they hit the 2nd trimester due to malformations and abnormalities. There is not much they can do in the beginning so that is why most doctors won't see you until you are 9-10 weeks along. Although if you have had 4 or more MC or a still born, they will schedule an ultrasound around 7-8weeks for viability and will have a little extra care.

That was the impression I got as well. This is my first pregnancy and when I went for my first appointment at 11 weeks, I constantly heard things like, "oh it's still really early," and so on. I think maybe because the first trimester has the most risk, doctors don't feel the need to get super invested in the pregnancy. I can understand their reasoning but it still sucks as a patient. I definitely felt like things were way different between my 11 week and 20 week appointment and as I get closer to my due date, I can definitely sense the change with my doctors and nurses.