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My Due Date: March 26, 2014I am postpartum » My due date was more than 2 weeks ago
Age: 47 years old
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Exhausted - (ended in miscarriage)
By vesper » Posted Mar. 13, 2013 8:14pm - 267 views - 0 comments
Today was an emotional roller coaster. Last night my beta results were given to me as + for pregnancy (which I knew), and at 25... which is ok for not quite being 4 weeks along yet. The thing that bugged me was that they all kept asking me about the Folgard. Finally they sent in the big guns and had the RE talk to me. He presented a convoluted version of the methylation process dumbed down but also incorrect. I'm not an idiot, and the first thing I did when he diagnosed me with MTHFR was to come home and google the thing to death. I learned a lot, enough to know that he needs a refresher course on how this works.
Now I'm not wanting to go making him feel bad, but the conversation left a bad taste in my mouth and he wants me to do something I'm just not comfortable with. I think I need to schedule another face to face chat and in a very non-confrontational way present the options as I understand them (backed up with documentation) and explain I'm just not comfortable with the Folgard option and ask him what reservations does he have with the methylfolate option. After showing him what documentation I have, I don't think this will be an issue. If it is I guess I will have to resort to playing a part and saying I'm taking a medication I won't be taking just so they will leave me alone about it. If I was choosing to take NOTHING versus Folgard - that's one thing, but I will still be taking Methylfolate .. the same B9 vitamin in a different format. I learned a while ago that you have to be your own advocate because doctors are human and see so many patients that they can hardly keep it all straight let alone have enough time for a personal life and keep up on the mass quantities of ever evolving scientific medical studies and where we are now versus when he/she was in med school. It's not humane to expect them to be superhuman - I just want a reasonable one that will hear me out before treating me like an imbecile.
In other news.. I'm doing ok but after having a scare this morning with wondfos not darkening as I hoped... I'm calming down but more tired after all the crying. I wish I wasn't so afraid of another miscarriage. I think seeing a 7 week ultrasound that shows me things are ok will be a serious relief. I haven't made it to that point in a while so that would help a great deal.. providing I get there.
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Exhausted - (ended in miscarriage)
By vesper » Posted Mar. 13, 2013 8:14pm - 267 views - 0 comments
Today was an emotional roller coaster. Last night my beta results were given to me as + for pregnancy (which I knew), and at 25... which is ok for not quite being 4 weeks along yet. The thing that bugged me was that they all kept asking me about the Folgard. Finally they sent in the big guns and had the RE talk to me. He presented a convoluted version of the methylation process dumbed down but also incorrect. I'm not an idiot, and the first thing I did when he diagnosed me with MTHFR was to come home and google the thing to death. I learned a lot, enough to know that he needs a refresher course on how this works.
Now I'm not wanting to go making him feel bad, but the conversation left a bad taste in my mouth and he wants me to do something I'm just not comfortable with. I think I need to schedule another face to face chat and in a very non-confrontational way present the options as I understand them (backed up with documentation) and explain I'm just not comfortable with the Folgard option and ask him what reservations does he have with the methylfolate option. After showing him what documentation I have, I don't think this will be an issue. If it is I guess I will have to resort to playing a part and saying I'm taking a medication I won't be taking just so they will leave me alone about it. If I was choosing to take NOTHING versus Folgard - that's one thing, but I will still be taking Methylfolate .. the same B9 vitamin in a different format. I learned a while ago that you have to be your own advocate because doctors are human and see so many patients that they can hardly keep it all straight let alone have enough time for a personal life and keep up on the mass quantities of ever evolving scientific medical studies and where we are now versus when he/she was in med school. It's not humane to expect them to be superhuman - I just want a reasonable one that will hear me out before treating me like an imbecile.
In other news.. I'm doing ok but after having a scare this morning with wondfos not darkening as I hoped... I'm calming down but more tired after all the crying. I wish I wasn't so afraid of another miscarriage. I think seeing a 7 week ultrasound that shows me things are ok will be a serious relief. I haven't made it to that point in a while so that would help a great deal.. providing I get there.
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