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Spoke too soon...
By Cattsmeow » Posted Aug. 23, 2015 9:25am - 225 views - 3 comments
I spoke too soon about my oldest adjusting fairly well to school. I got not 1, but 2 calls from his principle this past week because he was in trouble, as well as a meeting with the principle, the counselor, and his teacher. =/ Technically 3 calls, but one was just a follow up on the first one. The first call was because he threatened to spank his teacher because she told him it was time to do something else, and the second time was because he smacked a little girl on her shouder during recess, and then later smacked another little boy in the face during class. Yea, so not fun calls. Of course, while I am on the phone with her, I am freaking out, thinking they're going to kick him out, OMG WHY IS MY KID BEING A BULLY, and I am so sorry that he's showing his ass even though I JUST TOLD HIM THAT MORNING IF I GOT ANOTHER CALL HE WAS IN EVEN MORE TROUBLE! (He was already grounded from the tv and restricted to only the toys in his room for a week from the first call.) Not to mention, that morning he had thrown the biggest fit yet all because I told him to get dressed and he could not wear his pajamas to school. I had to dress him just I do my 1 year old, and got kicked in the face AND my stomach for my trouble. (Baby is ok, she was just pissed and let me know it for the rest of the day by painfully kicking at my kidneys and giving me contractions for about 2 hours.) So onto the meeting we had. We picked him up from school that afternoon, and met with the principle, counselor, and his teacher. They said they don't think he's doing any of it maliciously, but that he can't control his impulses. We've suspected that he may have ADHD for some time now, but his doctor didn't want to evaluate until he was in school. But now the school has initiated the evaluation. I have my forms completed and ready to go back tomorrow. His teacher is filling out her survey. Tuesday we meet with the school psychologist to discuss the results, and then we have to make an appointment with his doctor to show her the paperwork. We also decided to have him meet with either the school psychologist or their new counselor (they have 2) 1-2 times a week to work with him on social skills and controling his impulses. I am actually glad that they are willing to work with us, because I have tried EVERYTHING. We will find something that works, but after about 2 weeks (sometimes less) it does not work anymore, he's lost interest, etc. Time outs do not work with him, taking toys or tv away does not help, spanking (if warranted) does not faze him. We've tried rewarding positive behavior and ignoring/talking out negative behavior. We've tried talking through what he is feeling when he is misbehaving. We've changed his diet (no sugar, no processed foods, etc) to no avail. Nothing works. But now it's not only affecting homelife, it's affecting school life. I don't know what to do.
Has anyone else gone through this and have any suggestions?
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Spoke too soon...
By Cattsmeow » Posted Aug. 23, 2015 9:25am - 225 views - 3 comments
I spoke too soon about my oldest adjusting fairly well to school. I got not 1, but 2 calls from his principle this past week because he was in trouble, as well as a meeting with the principle, the counselor, and his teacher. =/ Technically 3 calls, but one was just a follow up on the first one. The first call was because he threatened to spank his teacher because she told him it was time to do something else, and the second time was because he smacked a little girl on her shouder during recess, and then later smacked another little boy in the face during class. Yea, so not fun calls. Of course, while I am on the phone with her, I am freaking out, thinking they're going to kick him out, OMG WHY IS MY KID BEING A BULLY, and I am so sorry that he's showing his ass even though I JUST TOLD HIM THAT MORNING IF I GOT ANOTHER CALL HE WAS IN EVEN MORE TROUBLE! (He was already grounded from the tv and restricted to only the toys in his room for a week from the first call.) Not to mention, that morning he had thrown the biggest fit yet all because I told him to get dressed and he could not wear his pajamas to school. I had to dress him just I do my 1 year old, and got kicked in the face AND my stomach for my trouble. (Baby is ok, she was just pissed and let me know it for the rest of the day by painfully kicking at my kidneys and giving me contractions for about 2 hours.) So onto the meeting we had. We picked him up from school that afternoon, and met with the principle, counselor, and his teacher. They said they don't think he's doing any of it maliciously, but that he can't control his impulses. We've suspected that he may have ADHD for some time now, but his doctor didn't want to evaluate until he was in school. But now the school has initiated the evaluation. I have my forms completed and ready to go back tomorrow. His teacher is filling out her survey. Tuesday we meet with the school psychologist to discuss the results, and then we have to make an appointment with his doctor to show her the paperwork. We also decided to have him meet with either the school psychologist or their new counselor (they have 2) 1-2 times a week to work with him on social skills and controling his impulses. I am actually glad that they are willing to work with us, because I have tried EVERYTHING. We will find something that works, but after about 2 weeks (sometimes less) it does not work anymore, he's lost interest, etc. Time outs do not work with him, taking toys or tv away does not help, spanking (if warranted) does not faze him. We've tried rewarding positive behavior and ignoring/talking out negative behavior. We've tried talking through what he is feeling when he is misbehaving. We've changed his diet (no sugar, no processed foods, etc) to no avail. Nothing works. But now it's not only affecting homelife, it's affecting school life. I don't know what to do.
Has anyone else gone through this and have any suggestions?
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from pbc910 » Posted Aug. 24, 2015 12:42pm We have had a lot of issues with my youngest and his learning experience in school. It was horrible because the school basically didn't do anything for us other than say, "blah blah we know he is behind but we can't hold him back." Oh, ok, thanks? So, it;s good they are doing all this now for him and I'm sure he will get all the assistance he needs. It's frustrating and stressful for sure. I felt like such a bad parent but had to realize we did all we could for him. It's gotten better but it just sucks!!!! |
 | Comment from Cattsmeow » Posted Aug. 24, 2015 9:32am Thank you, MalPal. I hope you do not have to go through this. It is horrible seeing your child go through this and thinking that you are a horrible parent because of it. I have been seriously doubting my parenting skills this last week and it is a horrid feeling for sure. |
 | Comment from MalPal85 » Posted Aug. 24, 2015 9:18am Obviously haven't gone through this since I'm pregnant with my first but I hope everything works out! |
