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My Due Date: November 25, 2014I have given birth!
Age: 41 years old
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1st Midwife appt
By lvlolo24 » Posted Apr. 17, 2014 1:08pm - 140 views - 0 comments
Yesterday we had our 1st midwife appt. I have decided I want a home birth or a water birth at home. The experiences I have heard from other woman who have had this type of birth, reading reviews, and watching this documentary called "The Business of Being Born" this is the best way to have your baby. I've been curious and reading a lot, researching and seeing if this type of birth is right for me, my baby, and my family. The 1st midwife we interviewed had really good answers about her experiences, has walked the walk with home births with both her children, and overall seemed confident and experienced in her field. I had a trillion questions to ask from researching questions and coming with some on my own that I wanted to know. My wife had her share of questions but then said something that stayed in the back of my mind. Her concern overall is for my comfort and safety as well as the babys and seems scared and skeptical on this type of birth with no hospital intervention. She seemed unsure of the process and it could be partly my fault as I have been doing all this research on my own without her present. If maybe I had included her maybe she would feel a little more at ease. Overall the midwife gave me a good vibe and I felt comfortable with her. One thing that impressed me was she is currently pregnant but is a surrogate for someone and that touched me to think of that selfless act to do that for someone!
After the interview we went out to grab something to eat when I asked my wife what she thought about the midwife and to bring up if she really was indeed uneasy about this. She admitted that she was a little anxious about going this route but wants to support me and on how I want to have this baby. I told her that her opinion completely matters to me and that I dont want to put her in a situation where she would be uneasy or anxious because those vibes would come out from her possibly putting me and the baby on edge. She mentioned she wants to continue to explore the idea and would support me on what I decided. Ultimately I said we have to meet other midwives and lets get their experiences and opinions. We also sill have yet to meet my OB I scheduled due to the hospital he delivers at and to see how we feel with him. The hospital he delivers at is also questionable because its a catholic hospital and I am unsure how they would feel about an open lesbian couple delivering there. I am really strong on my opinions and comforts of refusing services or business with companies that dont support the gay community.
For now my options are still open. I know I am only 8 weeks along but is important to me to have plans being put in place. We will continue to meet with midwives and meet the OB and start to make some decisions what birth plan I will have.
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1st Midwife appt
By lvlolo24 » Posted Apr. 17, 2014 1:08pm - 140 views - 0 comments
Yesterday we had our 1st midwife appt. I have decided I want a home birth or a water birth at home. The experiences I have heard from other woman who have had this type of birth, reading reviews, and watching this documentary called "The Business of Being Born" this is the best way to have your baby. I've been curious and reading a lot, researching and seeing if this type of birth is right for me, my baby, and my family. The 1st midwife we interviewed had really good answers about her experiences, has walked the walk with home births with both her children, and overall seemed confident and experienced in her field. I had a trillion questions to ask from researching questions and coming with some on my own that I wanted to know. My wife had her share of questions but then said something that stayed in the back of my mind. Her concern overall is for my comfort and safety as well as the babys and seems scared and skeptical on this type of birth with no hospital intervention. She seemed unsure of the process and it could be partly my fault as I have been doing all this research on my own without her present. If maybe I had included her maybe she would feel a little more at ease. Overall the midwife gave me a good vibe and I felt comfortable with her. One thing that impressed me was she is currently pregnant but is a surrogate for someone and that touched me to think of that selfless act to do that for someone!
After the interview we went out to grab something to eat when I asked my wife what she thought about the midwife and to bring up if she really was indeed uneasy about this. She admitted that she was a little anxious about going this route but wants to support me and on how I want to have this baby. I told her that her opinion completely matters to me and that I dont want to put her in a situation where she would be uneasy or anxious because those vibes would come out from her possibly putting me and the baby on edge. She mentioned she wants to continue to explore the idea and would support me on what I decided. Ultimately I said we have to meet other midwives and lets get their experiences and opinions. We also sill have yet to meet my OB I scheduled due to the hospital he delivers at and to see how we feel with him. The hospital he delivers at is also questionable because its a catholic hospital and I am unsure how they would feel about an open lesbian couple delivering there. I am really strong on my opinions and comforts of refusing services or business with companies that dont support the gay community.
For now my options are still open. I know I am only 8 weeks along but is important to me to have plans being put in place. We will continue to meet with midwives and meet the OB and start to make some decisions what birth plan I will have.
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