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Age: 40 years old
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Couvade Syndrome
By Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 7:48am - 461 views - 9 comments
Okay I'm laughing again before I even wrote anything. Let me explain.
So I followed the advice given to me by you lovely ladies who always seem to have a much clearer head than I do when I'm flustered.
Hubby came home that night and we put the little man to bed and hubby run me a bath as my back was playing up again. He agreed to sit with me and talk things through.
I will say I was freaked out what he might say as I led in the bath looking at my belly actually splashing water as Thea rolled about, I told him all I was worried about and that he was acting so weird when I try to talk to him.
He listened and then started to tell me he was tired, stressed at work and kept getting overwhelmed with work and money. He said his back is really painful and keeping him awake, he's always had a bit of a bad back, now the pills weren't working very well and he thinks the stress is giving him stomach cramps, Even that the other night he had nightmares about loosing Hunter while out walking. (Now he's always mocked me because I have weird dreams and he never dreams as far as he's aware.)
The biggest of his issues is that he was so upset that he was upsetting me that it made he want to avoid talking about it because he says he feels like if I cry, he'll cry and he'll be embarrassed. He says he keeps thinking about our family or looking at his son and wanting to cry, even when I say something sweet to him trying to be closer to him. In eleven years he has NEVER cried about anything, showed very much emotion over soppy things or been like that at all.
I sat up in the bath and turned to face him already laughing and exclaimed with a smile,
"Oh Honey, don't be upset. You're just pregnant."
I ended up explaining to him that I was pretty sure he was suffering from a sympathetic pregnancy (Couvade syndrome), bad back, cramps, weird dreams and overly emotional.
He of course though I was mocking him until I made him google it to see I was being serious, I admit I did laugh a lot and then mocked him a little especially when he mentioned he had put on weight and was hungry all the time.
Things seem to make a lot of sense now and I am really relieved my paranoia was incorrect although I knew something was up. We weren't having a really bad fight without the fighting, he was just being me. Stubborn, quiet and over emotional.
Now its a bit of a joke as he blames his baby brain or says he can't do something because he's pregnant.
He still doesn't find it funny as I do that an advert with a baby in it made him well up, or Hunter saying something sweet to him made him leave the room because he was embarrassed.
Going to be interesting at our 3D scan on Saturday (yup its all booked and I'm stupid excited) as I can guess he might get a little emotional then too, he's such a girl pants.
I pointed out that he might end up with labor pains too which again he thought I was joking again until I showed him. Now I have another thing to look forward to when it comes to labor, meeting our little girl and watching Hubby beg for an epidural.
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Couvade Syndrome
By Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 7:48am - 461 views - 9 comments
Okay I'm laughing again before I even wrote anything. Let me explain.
So I followed the advice given to me by you lovely ladies who always seem to have a much clearer head than I do when I'm flustered.
Hubby came home that night and we put the little man to bed and hubby run me a bath as my back was playing up again. He agreed to sit with me and talk things through.
I will say I was freaked out what he might say as I led in the bath looking at my belly actually splashing water as Thea rolled about, I told him all I was worried about and that he was acting so weird when I try to talk to him.
He listened and then started to tell me he was tired, stressed at work and kept getting overwhelmed with work and money. He said his back is really painful and keeping him awake, he's always had a bit of a bad back, now the pills weren't working very well and he thinks the stress is giving him stomach cramps, Even that the other night he had nightmares about loosing Hunter while out walking. (Now he's always mocked me because I have weird dreams and he never dreams as far as he's aware.)
The biggest of his issues is that he was so upset that he was upsetting me that it made he want to avoid talking about it because he says he feels like if I cry, he'll cry and he'll be embarrassed. He says he keeps thinking about our family or looking at his son and wanting to cry, even when I say something sweet to him trying to be closer to him. In eleven years he has NEVER cried about anything, showed very much emotion over soppy things or been like that at all.
I sat up in the bath and turned to face him already laughing and exclaimed with a smile,
"Oh Honey, don't be upset. You're just pregnant."
I ended up explaining to him that I was pretty sure he was suffering from a sympathetic pregnancy (Couvade syndrome), bad back, cramps, weird dreams and overly emotional.
He of course though I was mocking him until I made him google it to see I was being serious, I admit I did laugh a lot and then mocked him a little especially when he mentioned he had put on weight and was hungry all the time.
Things seem to make a lot of sense now and I am really relieved my paranoia was incorrect although I knew something was up. We weren't having a really bad fight without the fighting, he was just being me. Stubborn, quiet and over emotional.
Now its a bit of a joke as he blames his baby brain or says he can't do something because he's pregnant.
He still doesn't find it funny as I do that an advert with a baby in it made him well up, or Hunter saying something sweet to him made him leave the room because he was embarrassed.
Going to be interesting at our 3D scan on Saturday (yup its all booked and I'm stupid excited) as I can guess he might get a little emotional then too, he's such a girl pants.
I pointed out that he might end up with labor pains too which again he thought I was joking again until I showed him. Now I have another thing to look forward to when it comes to labor, meeting our little girl and watching Hubby beg for an epidural.
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from aprilluvsmoz » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 2:24pm Always here to talk. I'm glad everything is better. Ohh early congratulations on hitting 27 weeks! |
 | Comment from Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 2:22pm I don't think either of us were dealing with the issue very well, both doing a lot of worrying without actually talking openly. I am very thankful for all of your help and advice. I don't know if i would have pushed to talk if you all hadn't suggested i should. |
| Comment from aprilluvsmoz » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 1:54pm Im glad that you had your talk. I figured it was just the way in which he was dealing with things, I know people can process stuff differently. You are both in an overwhelming time. Im sure everything will be on the up and up from now on. Good luck :) |
| Comment from Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 12:47pm Yeah its really cleared the air now and made us both a lot happier now and we've talked about his work issues so now we're both looking for a new job for him which has also made him feel more positive . |
 | Comment from HzlGreenEyes » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 11:32am We, as women.. ALWAYS think the worst! It's always good to have a talk when things see out of sorts. Glad he opened up and told you how he feels because he can now relax a bit too! |
| Comment from Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 10:27am I will, I'd hate to see him cry seeing as he's in such a fragile state. Lol I'll share my ice cream with him when he gets home that should make him happy. |
 | Comment from gemmalou79 » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 9:18am That's good that it was nothing serious :) Good luck on Saturday. Your Story did make me smile, the poor guy go easy on him lol. x |
| Comment from Sianny » Posted Oct. 2, 2014 8:52am Men are a pain and hey you deserve it more. I'll send you some via airmail! X x x X |
