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My Due Date: January 2, 2015I have given birth!
Age: 40 years old
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Hello Crazy Hormones and Mother In-Law
By Sianny » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 7:23am - 255 views - 5 comments
It like being on some wild ride! One minute I'm having so much fun, loved up and contented. The next minute I'm sobbing and insecure which can turn into a grumpy pouting session.
When I'm pregnant (I'm not sure if any of you ladies get the same way) but I become so very insecure over everything from my looks to my relationship. I'm currently embarrassing the bump so it's poor hubby who's having to hold me together.
I have moments where I don't feel good enough for him and I feel alone, his reassurance has been wonderful but I have prepared him that just like when I was pregnant with our first child I will eventually feel 'unattractive and big'.
When I look back at it I feel so silly and feel all loved up and 'glowing' again.
If I try not to bring up the insecurities then I end up snappy, grumpy and pout until he wrestles it out of me.
I feel slightly trapped at the moment as hubby can go out to do his hobbies and went out for a night with his brother but I can't because I have a two year old to look after and a growing baby that requires me to sleep a lot. Its not fun watching others have fun but I have no right to stop them just because I'm lonely at my pity party.
But as I said this all swings passed at the next minute I feel blessed and surrounded by caring people as I create and nest in my new house.
Its tiring work and I must really be stressing out everyone around me who are too nice to actually say anything and are far too understanding then I deserve.
At some point I've noticed that I am not the only one whose mother inlaw is like a whole trial in itself sent to test us to our very limits. She's not a monster but she's a liar and very very devious. For our first years together she prided herself in comparing me, to my face, to hubbys ex. Nothing like 'she was better then you' just pointing out every little thing like 'Oh she looked lovely with her hair up, you always wear it down' or 'we used to go shopping all the time, you don't wear skirts much when she did'. It used to leave me standing there dumbfounded on what she was actually trying to say.
I put a stop to this after a few glasses of wine after she commented that 'she loved coming to our Christmas parties with my son, you look uncomfortable dear' and I added 'she also to sleep sleet with his best friend behind his back a lot, I don't do that...' No one spoke and the comparisons stopped.
When I was pregnant with our son hubby and I were invited to meet a friend MIL had lost touch with and adored, so we listened to the tales and heard all about this friends son and her amazingly pretty daughter who was currently studying photography. She brought out the 'glamour shots' of the daughter and while I was sat right there started to arrange for him to go out on photography shoots with her, dinner after and that she was so pretty and single. Hubby pointed out that he was into landscape and didn't know her and needed to be here with me. I chocked on my OJ and asked if they could wait till I had given birth before they set him up with another girl. She looked offended and handed the pictures back to her friend who couldn't stop laughing thinking the whole thing was a joke.
MIL didn't talk to me for a while.
Hubby has always avoided the conversation of her 'scheming' until an event a week ago.
We have a great friend who MIL treated like another son as he used to live with my inlaws and now house shares with hubbys brother, he has recently got the most amazing girlfriend and brother commented on how much he liked her personality and MIL instantly spent the rest of the night trying to persuade her son to steal this guys girlfriend while telling this guy how much she missed him living with them. This new girl then got treated like royalty for the rest of the evening as MIL tried to woo her to join the family.
Right now, with my hormones on high alert I want nothing to do with her more then I am obligated to do as 'current' daughter in law.
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Hello Crazy Hormones and Mother In-Law
By Sianny » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 7:23am - 255 views - 5 comments
It like being on some wild ride! One minute I'm having so much fun, loved up and contented. The next minute I'm sobbing and insecure which can turn into a grumpy pouting session.
When I'm pregnant (I'm not sure if any of you ladies get the same way) but I become so very insecure over everything from my looks to my relationship. I'm currently embarrassing the bump so it's poor hubby who's having to hold me together.
I have moments where I don't feel good enough for him and I feel alone, his reassurance has been wonderful but I have prepared him that just like when I was pregnant with our first child I will eventually feel 'unattractive and big'.
When I look back at it I feel so silly and feel all loved up and 'glowing' again.
If I try not to bring up the insecurities then I end up snappy, grumpy and pout until he wrestles it out of me.
I feel slightly trapped at the moment as hubby can go out to do his hobbies and went out for a night with his brother but I can't because I have a two year old to look after and a growing baby that requires me to sleep a lot. Its not fun watching others have fun but I have no right to stop them just because I'm lonely at my pity party.
But as I said this all swings passed at the next minute I feel blessed and surrounded by caring people as I create and nest in my new house.
Its tiring work and I must really be stressing out everyone around me who are too nice to actually say anything and are far too understanding then I deserve.
At some point I've noticed that I am not the only one whose mother inlaw is like a whole trial in itself sent to test us to our very limits. She's not a monster but she's a liar and very very devious. For our first years together she prided herself in comparing me, to my face, to hubbys ex. Nothing like 'she was better then you' just pointing out every little thing like 'Oh she looked lovely with her hair up, you always wear it down' or 'we used to go shopping all the time, you don't wear skirts much when she did'. It used to leave me standing there dumbfounded on what she was actually trying to say.
I put a stop to this after a few glasses of wine after she commented that 'she loved coming to our Christmas parties with my son, you look uncomfortable dear' and I added 'she also to sleep sleet with his best friend behind his back a lot, I don't do that...' No one spoke and the comparisons stopped.
When I was pregnant with our son hubby and I were invited to meet a friend MIL had lost touch with and adored, so we listened to the tales and heard all about this friends son and her amazingly pretty daughter who was currently studying photography. She brought out the 'glamour shots' of the daughter and while I was sat right there started to arrange for him to go out on photography shoots with her, dinner after and that she was so pretty and single. Hubby pointed out that he was into landscape and didn't know her and needed to be here with me. I chocked on my OJ and asked if they could wait till I had given birth before they set him up with another girl. She looked offended and handed the pictures back to her friend who couldn't stop laughing thinking the whole thing was a joke.
MIL didn't talk to me for a while.
Hubby has always avoided the conversation of her 'scheming' until an event a week ago.
We have a great friend who MIL treated like another son as he used to live with my inlaws and now house shares with hubbys brother, he has recently got the most amazing girlfriend and brother commented on how much he liked her personality and MIL instantly spent the rest of the night trying to persuade her son to steal this guys girlfriend while telling this guy how much she missed him living with them. This new girl then got treated like royalty for the rest of the evening as MIL tried to woo her to join the family.
Right now, with my hormones on high alert I want nothing to do with her more then I am obligated to do as 'current' daughter in law.
Comments for this Journal Entry
 | Comment from Sianny » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 12:26pm Thanks hun. We wouldn't be a family of we didn't drive one another potty. She's a great grandmother or at least she feeds him sweets and panders to him but that's what they do best hehehe |
 | Comment from aprilluvsmoz » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 11:27am My hormones have been nuts too! I have been upset, then the next day I will be happy. The whole thing with family is sometimes they will be the people to drive you the most insane! Im sure everything will eventually settle down. |
| Comment from Sianny » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 10:08am Ha ha ha it's fine to laugh Kitten I do when I'm not crying over absolutely nothing and Wifey after 11 years she annoys me but I'm used to it now. I think most MILs have quirks DIL have to live with lol I like to think my revenge is that I'm still here going strong and ever so slightly smarter then her *evil laugh* |
 | Comment from Kitten90 » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 9:24am I hope this isn't offensive but I was laughing pretty damn hard about the way you handled things with MIL's comments!! I probably would have done the same! =) My hormones are nuts right now too. Someone almost caused me to get in a car wreck last night (thankfully we did not) and I flipped right out! But I also tend to cry over anything whether I'm happy or sad lol |
| Comment from wifey1985 » Posted Jul. 11, 2014 9:07am Hmm, and I thought my MIL was bad :( I'm sorry yours is being a jerk! Would it comfort you at all to know that she would probably act the same way with any other DIL?? I'm not sure that would comfort me, but it's worth a shot :) Glad the pregnancy is going well, hope you feel more secure soon! Stupid hormones. |
