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By itsbeans » Posted Feb. 7, 2015 9:21am - 359 views - 6 comments

I am STRESSED OUT

Two things bothering me, one is pregnancy related and very minor and the other is not and kind of major.

I own a multi unit house, we live in one unit and rent the other 2. The people in unit 3 are cousins of my husband, always pay rent, sometimes a little late, but always pay. Generally they are fine (except last month when they flushed 5 baby wipes down the toilet and caused the sewer to back up into the house costing me more than their monthly rent to fix, but that's a different problem and not the cause of my current stress)

The woman who rents unit 2 is for the most part unknown to us. She's been living here since September and she's currently 2 months behind on her rent. 2 months! This has never happened to us before. When you speak to her, she cries. She has a story about how her pay check got messed up or how one of her kids (they don't live with her, I think they are either adult children or older teenagers) is in the hospital. She shakes and she cries. I'm generally a sympathetic person but I am not running a charity here. I have bills to pay too and my mortgage depends on this income. It's kind of why I have an income property in the first place. Today she paid her rent of 800.00 for January, of course as of right now she's 7 days late already for February. I really don't want to be the asshole that sends her a pay or quit notice in a week but if I don't see ALL of my money from this woman by the 15th I'm going to have to. I can't afford to give her an apartment rent free. If I could my brother in law would still be living there. This is stressing me out to no end!

Ok, now the tiny little pregnancy annoyance that is stressing me out. It actually has nothing to do with BEING pregnant it's more to do with my in-laws. My sister-in-law has been asking about the baby's gender since like 9 weeks. I've told her 1000 times that I won't have a scan where they can even tell me that until 20 weeks but she texts me or my husband like every other day asking about it. It's really, really getting irritating so now when anyone asks about the sex of the baby I'm pretty pissed off.

I just want my money, and my 20 week scan so I can move past this!

Comments for this Journal Entry

	Comment from rcorinne » Posted Feb. 8, 2015 1:14pm So sorry for your stresses. Maybe you could block your SIL's texts because she's obviously not getting the hints.
	Comment from eat2nourish » Posted Feb. 8, 2015 8:06am You could send your SIL a text back and say don't ask anymore, but when you find out she'll be one of the first people to know. Regarding the renter: Seems like you have been talking to her, so if she hears that the next notice will be the nasty one maybe she'll figure out how to pay (& have a few more days to scramble for the money). So, when your renter finally gets the pay or get evicted notice it won't be a surprise. You can only be "nice" for so long until those who are habitual on this sort of things figures out how to take advantage of you.
	Comment from itsbeans » Posted Feb. 7, 2015 6:10pm My sister in law is like... not officially slow but if there's a threshold I swear to god she's just above it. She's one of the dumbest people I have ever met. I have sent her such a text and it just rolls off of her! The tenant I've decided she's got a week to pay february's rent or she's getting a pay or quit notice. I've had enough of her! Thanks for your advice!
	Comment from Papas~Mama » Posted Feb. 7, 2015 5:01pm Send your sister-in-law a text message in ALL capital letters stating that YOUR APPOINTMENT TO FIND OUT BABY'S SEX IS ON SUCH AND SUCH DATE AND UNTIL THEN YOU DON'T KNOW AND WON'T KNOW A DAMN THING. KINDLY STOP ASKING A QUESTION YOU KNOW I DON'T HAVE THE ANSWER TO. HAVE A WONDERFUL DAY. Unless she's actually slow or mentally handicapped in some way it's completely idiotic to do that to you. It doesn't even make sense. Sounds like you have to lay it down with her. As far as your renter, you have to do what you have to do. You've been kind to her by waiting over a month for January's rent, and her problems are not your problems. Sounds like she might be someone who takes advantage of other people. She'll prob have excuses for everything, every month. You have to protect yourself. Good luck with everything, sorry about your annoyances!
	Comment from itsbeans » Posted Feb. 7, 2015 3:12pm Thanks! Yeah there's a 50.00 late fee in the rental agreement, I'd be happy just to have the 800.00, these past two months have been a mess with house bills, because of the late rent and the sewer incident. At this point I'd like to sell the house and not deal with any of it, but that's not in the cards right now!
	Comment from estone » Posted Feb. 7, 2015 11:44am That is extra stress that you don't need right now. We went through the same thing with a tenant, where she was behind in rent. We finally had to give a 3 day or quit, as it isn't fair to us. Also, once you let them get in the habit that its okay to pay late, you won't ever get it on time. Did you at least charge late fees for the late rent? Good luck and hope the time passes quickly until your scan.