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Seems like your doctor should be going through more training, that is ridiculous. A 5sec scan?! She should've been doing a more detailed check. Honestly i would lodge a complaint about your doc, and go get another second opinion ASAP.

Good luck x

I can't believe the doctor is brushing this off so lightly! I would not return to her. Your gut feeling is usually right, and if you are not comfortable with a d&c, don't have it done! Trust your instincts and the other 2 opinions you've gotten. I hope everything works out well for you and the baby!

I'm so sorry to hear about your loss, God always makes it easy for you with time. I had a D&C last year, I had an inevitable miscarriage @ 20 weeks, and sorry to say it was very painful, I wouldn't want to go through anything like that, but God gives us so much strength. And He will bless you again.

Girls, I cannot thank you enough for your kind words, encouragement and support. Last few days were days from hell for me so I reading your posts did help me tremendously. I wish you all healthy and happy pregnancies :) XXX

p.s. I'm having my first glass of wine ...I know I shouldn't because of the anesthetic but can't care less at the moment. Can't harm the baby can't I ...omg, I'm so sad :(

Don't go through with the D&C!! Switch to the doctor you got your second opinion from and don't return to the other. If you have a medical personnel not to touch the baby then you should wait. It could very well be that because of how your uterus is it makes getting a good image a lot harder.

I did the D&C today. Just got back from the hospital. 4 different doctors from 3 different hospital confirmed the baby stopped growing at 6w2d. Heartbeat was never found only pulsations. They said the pulsations were mine not the baby ...so the pregnancy ended up today. The procedure lasted 1/2 hour, full anesthetic, no pain, hardly any bleeding. Doc said they used vacuum to suck the baby out (literally). The vacuum is uterus friendly apparently. I am still dizzy from the anesthetic and feeling a bit loopy to be honest .. yeah, loopy is the right word .....BUT I know when the anesthetic wears off the Reality will hit me on Full Power. This is my 3rd miscarriage this year ... lost 3 babies in the last 12 months. How do I deal with this ...? The next two weeks will be the hardest but I guess I'm going to pull through ... what other choice do I have ..?!

You are under NO obligation to go back to a dr you are not comfortable with! It is your body and your decision! It sounds like she is really bullying you into going along with what she wants and that is not ok! It will hurt nothing to wait a little longer and see what happens. If you're going to miscarry, then you will anyway. But if the other dr is right and there is something there, then its worth it to hold out and see what happens. Especially if you saw it too. Nobody can make you have the d&c if you dont want to. That's what freedom of choice is all about. The freedom to do it if you want or NOT do it. Please do not go back to the first dr, she does not have you're best interest in mind! Protecting our children as parents starts way before their birth and you have every right to do exactly that!

First, make sure you've had a transvaginal ultrasound with a doctor (you trust) or a licensed technician. I'd also ask to have your HCG levels checked 48 hours apart.....all this before you commit to the D&C.

I had a blighted ovum suspected at 6 weeks and confirmed at 7w4d. I had a D&C the following week. My doctor even did another u/s and blood draw at the hospital before surgery, and it was 200% confirmed the pregnancy was not viable.

D&Cs do not hurt, only emotionally. I've had two in my life for nonviable pregnancies. The surgery is quick....outpatient....no soreness afterwards. Just some heavy-moderate menstral bleeding and maybe some minor cramping. Nothing you can't handle. It was the emotions, for me, that were the worst. Just coming to terms with everything being over just as it began.

glad you got the 2nd opinion. please wait...retroverted uteruses make it so much harder to get accurate results.

I had a missed miscarriage back in 2011, I had a second opinion right away but it didn't change the results. I refused to have the D&C and I refused a pill to help it along. I waited an extra week to miscarry naturally. It was extremely hard on me emotion and mentally. I'm hoping yours goes the other way. If it turns out for the worse don't try again right away, take the time to grieve and when the time is right you will be blessed with a little one.