Questions & Answers

Thank you so much for your replies ladies, do I wait with the D&C? ...I mean if the pulse is sooo weak and the baby measures so far behind is the D&C inevitable anyway?... just a question of time (not if but when). Don't know what to think .....

You are under NO obligation to go back to a dr you are not comfortable with! It is your body and your decision! It sounds like she is really bullying you into going along with what she wants and that is not ok! It will hurt nothing to wait a little longer and see what happens. If you're going to miscarry, then you will anyway. But if the other dr is right and there is something there, then its worth it to hold out and see what happens. Especially if you saw it too. Nobody can make you have the d&c if you dont want to. That's what freedom of choice is all about. The freedom to do it if you want or NOT do it. Please do not go back to the first dr, she does not have you're best interest in mind! Protecting our children as parents starts way before their birth and you have every right to do exactly that!

Hi ya, how confusing and upsetting for you!!! Worse case scenario (which I hope its not) is you will be put to sleep when you have a D&C so you wont feel a thing. I had a missed miscarriage at 12/14 weeks baby had died at 6. I carried on feeling pregnant, and it was only when I went for a dating scan I found out. My period was normal as it all gets 'cleared' out. I fell the vey next month with my now 9 year old son.

Hope your little bean is here to stay though!!

omg, I had no idea... I'm SO sorry to hear of your loss... I truly hope you find healing and peace quickly. My heart breaks for you.... I hope you can join us soon again... I haven't ever had a D&C but it doesn't sound painful from what you've said.... You are in my thoughts and I am here if you need an ear. </3

Just got back from the second doctor and he said quote "Don't you dare touch the baby". He saw a pulse/flicker, Very Weak but THERE! Even I saw it. The baby measures behind 6w2d but he said because of my titled uterus is difficult to see. He told me to go back in few days and NOT to proceed with the D&C.

I have never been so Lost. Two doctors two extremely different opinions. The first one scheduled the D&C in 3 days and second one says "Don't touch the baby". I don't have bleeding and cramping, in fact I don't have Any miscarriage symptoms. I guess I am going to wait ...so the saga continues. This is no fun, I'll tell ya ugh!

Don't do the d&c and definitely change to the dr. You've been getting your second opinions from if you can. Then if your pregnancy goes to term I would sue the shit out of your first obgyn!!!! Good luck! Hugs!