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Q: Feeling slighted by husband's strong preference for boy

This sounds really dumb but my husband adamantly doesn't want a girl. I have said in these discussions reasons why I'd love either a boy or a girl (this is our first) but he always says "Nope, I want a boy". It makes me feel like he won't be happy if its a girl! I know that he will but....the way he talks it's like there's a 50% chance he'll be upset and no one should be upset when they're having a baby. I tried explaining to him but he says he's just kidding. Has anyone else had to deal with this with their husband or other family members? I wish people wouldn't tell me they want it to be one or the other-just be happy we're having anything at all, damnit!

This question was asked May. 22, 2013 5:58pm
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Answered by Quartz3 - May. 22, 2013 7:41pm
I agree with the previous poster: your husband clearly has a preference for a boy, which is fine, but I'm sure he will love your baby just as much, no matter the gender. Plus, he himself says he's kidding.
However, if his comments hurt your feelings, maybe you could ask him to tone it down a little.

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Answered by redrouge - May. 22, 2013 7:16pm
theres nothing wrong with saying you want either a boy or a girl in my opinion and i think if alot of people if they were honest would say they d want a boy or a girl..personally for me it never mattered and it sounds like it doesnt bother you .let him off because if its a boy he will love him and if its a girl he will love her..my husband and my daughter have a bond that would break your heart..he adores her and she adores him..we have ayounger son son too whom he adores too..so i think when baby is born no matter what the sex the love he will have for the baby will be unconditional..i dont think men understand how much love he will have for baby when its born..you have nothing to worry about...

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