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Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by emma_grey - Mar. 23, 2018 10:29am

Dear mate, you have suffered a lot. Life is the name of hardships but strong is the one who face them. One who don’t kill you makes you stronger. As you have mentioned, it proves that you don’t have any genetic issues. Still you are facing infertility may be due to some health issues. If you have ever faced some consequences like this or may have an accident. Well my sympathy is with you. I have read many people sharing their experience here and much of them have mentioned that they had face failure for over more than times but still they had success at the end. The other option left is adoption, but having your own baby is always best. IVF is also an option but it’s very technical process and have very low success rates. I think you should give IUI another chance and this time choose some well reputed clinic. Because IUI has maximum success rates and I hope it will work for you this time. Blast of luck!

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Answered by Akane966 - Mar. 31, 2018 12:56pm

According to me surrogacy is the best solution to infertility.i'm new here.I'm from Japan.We moved to Europe to find our heaven.
Surrogacy is ban in Japan.And i'm infertile due to some cancer reasons. So we moved to Europe to find surrogacy related clinics. We consulted many clinics in Europe. Than we came to know about clinics in Ukraine and we moved to Ukraine.
In ukraine we found a very good clinic.
Now we are having twins with the help of this clinic.The clinic gave us a very good surrogate mom.With the help of that mom we are having our two twin daughters.
We are so excited and happy.
Feedback and suggestions much admired.

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Answered by jilly6768 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:06pm

Hi Pheobe412. If only it was this easy to find out what exactly is wrong with me. I have lived a normal life and through getting my self-check by Doctors I have no kind of a deficiency. If there were any kind of deficiency in my body then the doctor would have pointed it out by now. I myself am very confused that how can such Qualified doctor not find out the exact problem with me in this modern age where there is every possible way to find things out. Yeah, I had an abortion when I was 20 years old but I do not think so that has to do anything with my infertility. But still, thank you for your advice. Thank you for your wishes and support. I love people like you!

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Answered by CandyGarett - Mar. 5, 2018 2:45am

Hey there. Yes, you are not the only one fighting from this evil. It is prevailing all over the world very rapidly. I am really sorry to know about your failures. You have been through a lot, I must say.
I am glad to know that you are still trying to fight it. This is so good to know that you are a strong lady. IVF is a process which is helping many in need. It has a high success rate.
You should go for it with positive mind and lots of strength.
Lots of love and power to you.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 29, 2018 2:52am

If IUI is not working for you. It's very doubtful whether the IVF will work or not. I think you should consider surrogacy. Surrogacy is really good for your case and it's going to help you in your case. I wish you get your child soon. Just keep your hopes up.

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Answered by tenny99 - Jul. 15, 2018 8:36am

Hi, How are you doing? I am really sad to know about your problems. You are a strong woman. You faced a lot. Infertility is hard to face. I was infertile too. I was so depressed. There was darkness in my life. Then I came to know about a clinic in Ukraine. We went there. I told them my problem. After seeing my medical reports they suggested surrogacy. The clinic is very good. Its services are up to the mark. They really helped me. They gave moral support as well. They told me how to stay strong. They tell every procedure step by step. This clinic is very helping. Good luck to all.

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Answered by rihana012 - Mar. 21, 2018 2:12pm

Hey, I am facing Infertility for 7 years. I was suggested IVF by my gynaecologist. I asked many other doctors for suggestions. But some of them suggested that go for Surrogacy. It was hard for me to decide. So I asked on different forums about IVF. They also suggested me that go for surrogacy because IVF is risky and it is less successful. So I made my mind for surrogacy. I went to the suggested clinic. The clinic is renown for surrogacy in Europe. the staff was so professional. They provided me all the services. I met my surrogate and she had no medical complications. I am a happy mother now. I am happy that I chose right thing on right time.

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Answered by sally28 - Mar. 9, 2018 10:51am

Hi jilly! It's sad to know that you are going through the same problem that I was once going through. It gets very hard to live when you have so much stress. I know you're a very strong lady. You did not lose hope and kept trying. Keeping your hopes alive is what matters the most. In your case, I've seen a lot of positivism. I'm sure that if you keep faith in yourself, then surely you will get what you want. No doubt, infertility has become a very common issue these days. Many women are suffering from this problem. But I have seen so many cases where the ladies go for IVF or surrogacy and they have children now. I would advise you to go as your doctor tells you too. But make some research on good clinics too. My friend has baby girl through surrogacy. She got herself treated from a clinic in Eastern Europe. One should always be very careful in such matters. After all, it is a very sensitive issue. Good luck!

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Answered by crystallove - Feb. 10, 2018 9:13pm

Hello there. First of all, you really need to get all the negativity out of your life immediately. There's nothing else out there more dangerous than negativity that you get from people that do not even care about you. Be chill about your treatment. I am very sure that you will do fine. be with the people who really care for you and who really love you.

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Answered by Romana - Mar. 4, 2018 10:56am

Hi dear. I know this problem is causing so much problems these days. And many couples are facing this problem. You are not the only one. So you have to be strong as this is the only way you can have a baby in your life. I think surrogacy is the best option for you. You just need to be strong enough to deal with this situation. You can go for this option and have a baby. After reading your post i can feel your your condition that how much mentally disturbed you are.Your husband have to support you if he truly want to have a baby. You can read suggestions from different experienced couples in this forum. This forum have all the information regarding this process. You just have to spent extra time to do research. And believe me it's the most important phase in having a baby through surrogacy. I am sure you have suggested this from your doctor. Visit your doctor regularly to solve your problem as soon as possible.

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