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Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by jenifercox - Feb. 6, 2018 6:00pm

Well this is really strange. How is this possible. I am feeling strange about this. You should have to go for some tests for your serious check up. You should have to take care allot of yourself. I think stress could be the reason for your issue. May you get well soon dear. Don't be worry about anything. If you are nit pregnant than may be that is something good for you. don't worry everything will be fine. Best of luck dear. Take care allot. Best of luck.

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Answered by TaylorF - Apr. 11, 2018 5:02pm

Why do families not understand? Infertility is already difficult to deal with. We don't need more stress. It's good that you've let your family know about it. But you know, it's your and your husband's decision to make. I had infertility too. Still, have it, but am a parent now. I became a parent through surrogacy. I didn't even have the choice to get IVF. I had to get my ovaries removed. Endometriosis was messing things up. My family was frowning at the mention of surrogacy. But my husband stood strong by my side. You know, it doesn't matter how a baby is born. What matters is that it's your baby.

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Answered by Olivia_1990 - Jun. 26, 2018 7:35pm

Hey Jilly! I can understand the pain you are going through. Hope it gets easy on you. I am suffering from hysterectomy myself. It is a very painful experience because at one point you give up on all hopes. However, I had a support from my family and friends because no one can blame you for this. I had my first child through IUI after several tries. However, I am not here to discourage you regarding IVF but a more safe option would be surrogacy. Because IVF can fail at times but I have seen many successful surrogacy cases. I am also opting for surrogacy for my second child. Let us know how your experience goes! Good luck!

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Answered by SelenaJones - Apr. 12, 2018 3:51pm

Hi Jilly. Oh yes! I agree it's not easy to go through all that. I'm also in the same situation as you. Everyone has conceived normally in my family. So, yeah! No one supported me enough for this whole period. But, this year finally, I've decided to undergo an IVF at a center of repro in Ukraine. I'm going for it in June. My DH is supporting me. So, finally! I'll also advise you to go through it. It's not an issue! I know how tense it makes a person. Don't be nervous! Just go for it! It will give you a better result I hope. Stay blessed. xx

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Answered by Amelia - Feb. 11, 2018 2:33pm

hello jilly!!! I read your post and can imagine how much mentally disturbed you are. When we live in a family and don’t able to do anything then every member looks at you with some pitiful eyes. I know. So my suggestion to you is making a decision and go for treatment. After making decision convince yourself that you have to do. Don’t lose hope. you have to be brave like every woman who goes through it. Stay happy!!!

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Answered by jilly6768 - Feb. 5, 2018 4:07pm

Hello Ella. Thanks for your advice. I myself or my doctor isn't sure about the reasons behind my infertility and my failures. This is the main reason that keeps bugging me the most and makes me sad. If I only someone could find out the exact reason behind my infertility. Thanks for the details you shared. And yes you are completely right, It is my life's decision and I should not care about anyone else.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 21, 2018 11:47pm

There's already a lot that you suffered. I am feeling very bad for you dear. I don't know what to say. I guess if IUI method never worked for you. Using IVF is an opposite to wasting more time. I guess you should just leave it right there. Just try to go for some other method. There are only two methods left after that. Surrogacy and adoption. Both are really good methods and must help you with your problems. Don't worry. Just try to be strong.

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Answered by NeoVictorianMom - Feb. 9, 2018 2:37pm

hello there, has your husbands fertility been checked ? because more often then not the problem falls on the man. if he is fine you need to find a doctor who specializes in infertility. It doesn't sound to me like your current doctor cares too much about what your going thru, to do all the testing and he should have sent your husband for testing as well. just some thoughts. keep trying and keep your hopes up.

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Answered by jenifercox - Feb. 6, 2018 5:58pm

Yes you are right stress could mess up things for you. Don't worry it's nothing to worry about. It's completely normal. Just try to take care of yourself. Try to be calm and keep patience. Everything is going to be fine. This is really good method. You should try that. May you get well soon dear. Best of luck. I hope everything good comes up for you.

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Answered by eva890 - Apr. 11, 2018 6:31pm

Hey there. I hope you're good. It's totally fine to feel anxious before trying something new. I'd suggest, first of all, to relax. Secondly, I would suggest you consider all your options. You've got surrogacy, in the pipeline, as well. Surrogacy might seem like a better option in your case. It is a much safer option as compared to IVF. Plus, you haven't exactly mentioned what your infertility really is. If you're having problems in fertilizing the eggs, then your best option is probably going for IVF. Similarly, if you can't carry the child, then you can always opt for surrogacy. Both options have a very good success rate. A lot of good clinics offer their services, especially this one in Ukraine. However, it is a big decision to make. I'd suggest you consider all your options and don't rush it. Good luck to you!

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