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Q: Infertile

Hello everyone! I have been reading a lot on this forum and from all this reading I found out that I am not the only one who is suffering from infertility problems. I come from a family where every woman has had normal pregnancies and get to have babies very easily. But in my case, I have been trying for 10 years and still don't have any children. My doctor has declared me to be infertile for unknown reasons. I have gone through IUI 2 times but failed both times. Thinking about going for IVF this time as my doctor has suggested. I do not know much about the whole process. I am scared of another failure. I know stress can mess up everything for me again but I just cannot help it. I cannot ignore all the judgment that is passed onto me due to my infertility. I have not told my whole family about IVF yet, I think they will make a fuss about it and make me feel uncomfortable. I hope to get some positive comments and some support over here. I would really appreciate some help.

This question was asked Feb. 3, 2018 11:03am
Category: Miscarriage & Loss

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Answered by EllaJohn - Feb. 3, 2018 7:33pm

Hey there! How are you? Its sad to hear about you. I am sorry to ask you about it. But here you haven't mentioned the test your doctor took to declare you infertile. You have not mentioned about ht e cause of failure of 2 IUI.
To answer your question, I would here tell you about IVF. In IVF, the egg and the sperm are fertilized outside the body and transferred back to your uterus. IVF is chosen by those who have some problem with normal fertilization. Also IVF can be carried out using a donor egg if the only problem is your eggs and their is nothing wrong with implantation and conception by you.
You don't need to worry about it. It is a friendly procedure. :)
Don't even worry about anyone else. Its the decision of your life. Keep your DH in confidence.
Stay strong.
Good Luck! :)
Much Love.

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Answered by Emilykingston - Apr. 11, 2018 6:12pm

Dont think too much. If you think it will cause you stress. Then go for some other method. Why dont you try surrogacy? It has a fair shot for you. I am sure your family will support it too.Wish you best of luck.

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Answered by sally28 - Mar. 23, 2018 6:44pm

Hey! Don't worry, sweetheart! Everything is going to be fine. Nothing bad is going to happen, I'm sure. Don't be scared of people. People are there to talk. Don't listen to them. Just relax and think about your future. IVF can help you so go for it. Find a good clinic for yourself. I hope the treatment goes successfully this time. I'll pray for you. Good luck, sweety!

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Answered by Blessed75 - Apr. 12, 2018 2:26pm

It is extremely sad. I can't believe that despite all this you developed the courage of bringing your problem before the forum. It is so hurting to learn that your plans crashed twice. Once you are infertile you try to go for anything. There is hope associated with what you do. This compelled you to try IUI not once but twice. It is unfortunate that it didn't turn up the way you wanted it. Now you are planning to go for IVF. I hope it will be a great option. It has been a great success for the infertile couples. You can also try going for surrogacy. A proper decision can be made only when you get tested. The fertility clinics check for the success of the procedures after going through certain screening tests. These tests reveal that how far you are able physically to support a procedure. I hope that future holds some really great news for you

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Answered by RihanaSam - Mar. 23, 2018 5:35am

I don’t know who it feels to be a one.But i guess they are good people who help others.
I am going for the surrogacy option as their is no other way to have a baby of my own.
I consulted a clinic regarding surrogacy they provided me a positive feedback.
There are very good clinics regarding surrogacy as i’m sharing my experience with all of you.
For now i have convinced my husband to go for surrogacy and he is ready too.
I contacted a clinic for surrogacy method and they responded very well to my questions.
I suggest you to go for this clinic and atleast you should contact them and share your problem with them so that they can propose a better solution for you.
As they suggested surrogacy option for us.
Now they are looking for a good woman for our baby who can carry our baby in her womb for 9 months.
They will find a good female with all clear tests so that we don’t have to face any issue later.

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Answered by Loris201 - Feb. 6, 2018 7:49am

Hi dear. I know this is a problem for many couples. I want to tell you that IVF is really a good option. You can go for this option. This is a good option. IVF treatment also has a good success. It was awful to hear about your infertility. Infertility in women is growing every day. It is true that IVF and IUI procedures do not come with a 100% guarantee. However, with regard to surrogate motherhood, it has the highest success rates compared to any other infertility treatment. This allows parents to share a genetic connection with your children. Biotexcom in Ukraine Kiev provides class services in this regard. Contact us for further details. They could offer you the best. You can also get the best rate from there. Just try it. I hope I helped you

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Answered by clara002 - Feb. 21, 2018 5:18am

Hello Jilly.Infertility is a great problem.Every second woman has this issue.I am feeling sad about you.I was trying to conceive for 4 years.In 4 years I am getting too much depressed and heartbroken.I am getting the negative and negative test.I just thinking, when my time comes.When I have sort out things clear.I can understand your situation with my condition after 4 years struggle.It's really been a hard time.First, my husband is not willing to have surrogacy or IVF process.We are not financially very stable.The main problem is about the cost of this process.Now, I have insisting to have to take this process on them.After a long time thinking, we decided to go through for surrogacy.My husband and I completely got ready to visit the clinic.We have great hope and positive thoughts.You all people pray for us.

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Answered by pheobe412 - Mar. 8, 2018 6:19am

Yes well according to your situation this is the best option of you. Consult with the sperm bank first. Now a day's a technology has become so far that banks have those frozen samples of the sperms and most amazingly you can see the report of the sperm donor in which these banks puts every little detail of them and you can chose on your own with your favorite one among the profiles.

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Answered by saramccartney123 - Mar. 3, 2018 8:02pm

Hey. You must be going through such a hard time. Other people's reaction is so disappointing. I mean, is it not enough that the person is already going through something? They just have to make it worse. Ten years is a long time. Your post made me very sad. You should listen to your doctor and go for IVF. I hope IVF works for you. You have to stay hopeful. Even it doesn't work, don't lose the hope. There are other options that you can also consider. You don't have to tell your family about it. It is your life and your decision. Nobody has the right to make you feel bad. Good luck with everything.

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Answered by monika123 - Mar. 23, 2018 3:07pm

Hey, there I am sure it must be very difficult for you to cope with infertility and then people making it even more difficult for you. My personal advice to you would be to keep it confidential. The clinic I am going to keep your treatment confidential. They make sure that your life and privacy are respected. I think that is something which is extremely important. IVF has been helping so many people get pregnant so I think you should definitely give it a try. It definitely requires a lot more patience. As you will have to take some shots before and once the eggs are retrieved you will have to wait anxiously for the embryo to develop. I know a lot of people for whom IVF works out maybe after 3 cycles. So you will have to prepare your mind for that as well. Make sure the clinic you opt for is doing this procedure professionally and in an experienced manner. A lot of doctors don't take it seriously, however, make sure they know what they are doing. As someone who is unaware might scar you

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