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i can in some way relate to you. my bf and i were great and communicated well before i became pregnant. Now that i am he does seem distant. How old are you guys if you dont mind me asking? i will be 20 in august and my bf will be 21 in august as well. We used to go out and just enjoy our time together but its like now he wont do that. I understand this isnt what he wanted right now in life but it is happening whether he is ready or not. i know you want to keep the peace between you two and i am the same way. everyones telling me he will come around once the baby is here but im not gonna count on it. we both need to realize that we can only count on ourselves. our babies need us they dont need us worrying about our bfs its added stress. maybe confronting their bfs or husbands helped other women here but u cant change a person. u can tell them how they act makes u feel but u cant change them. thats my advice i hope it helps. if you ever wanna talk or vent im here. [:

I went through this the first trimester of my pregnancy (I actually named one of my journals "My husband the ass"). He would get home and start working on the house which always included a few beers and he wouldn't come in until 7:30 at night. I got so annoyed I finally flipped. I told him that I can't take being all by myself and yes I know its probably my hormones but I need more support from you plus this is the last time it will be the two of us. After a couple rants and the last being a tear filled plea he has gotten his act together. He now doesn't even drink at all. I wish I had more advice for you but know you are not alone.

I feel like since I've been pregnant I need to be protected emotionally and physically by my husband. I personally think what your b/f is doing is wrong. For people to say "well he needs to get it out of his system before baby comes" is total b.s. what about what you need before the baby comes? Alone time with him, dinner, movies, cuddles. My husband did a couple weeks of "acting out" which made me livid. I finally put my foot down and let him know his behavior was unacceptable. He agreed and knew it was time to grow up. You might need to speak up with him. Good luck xoxo

Also if he needs to have fun before the baby comes in that way, he's probably not ready for a baby. I've worked with and around alot of people, and also I have seen alot of broken homes in my using days (and sober days) even just from people who smoked. One person wanted to have a kid and was ready for it (maybe not completely) and the other wanted to continue on living their old life and didnt want the responsibilty of taking care of another life. Usually the one parent would end up taking care of everything and in my experience once the baby came the other person would begin smoking pot even more regularly. It is a form of escape and he's definitely not dealing with reality if he spends two hours smoking in the shed every evening.

Nearlly everyone smokes a bit of weed. Maybe its his way of having fun before the bub comes im sure he wouldnt do it once its here

Goodluck

Oh and the smell of weed literally makes me throw up I cant stand it, so he says he tried not to come near me until he has a shower. so i just go to bed and miss out on cuddles and everything :(

I am 21 and my boyfriend is 20!

Yes thats exactly right, its not so much the fact he smokes, its the way he has distanced himself from me!! And I dont understand why!

You are right, there are only so many times you can tell them but some people are who they are! Its easier said that done leaving him coz he has been distanced when there is a baby involved!

I would love to talk sometime how are we going to do this haha

xxxxxx

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The question as to whether he is right or wrong. I think he is wrong, no doubt about it. People can change by the way, but not just by telling them to. Honestly, some family counselling may be a good idea to address how to handle the future. You two are tied now, and if he is trying to escape now, it's not going to get easier. That's my personal opinion, and it may be strong, but if my husband hadn't been there for me the whole 9 months, I would be quite worried as to my future with him as the father of my child and his support of me.

We had counselling several years ago for a different reason and it worked wonders on our relationship. But both of you need to see that there is a problem and at least consider that working together may need to happen.