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Also so people don't think I'm just being mean my daughter fatherd put her up for adoption and my husband adopted her because he hadn't seen her in 6 months and did not want her(his words).. I am just saying the mom needs to make her decision and people might think it is wierd what she picks but you need to set boundaries. Good luck and I will be hoping for a safe delivery

The guy who is my daughters real father was late to the delivery room because he didn't know what active labor was and he didn't know the birthing classes even after 4 classes.. so when he got there I was about to have her. He spent the night but wasn't letting me hold her a lot so I missed out on first couple day bonding.. I wasn't sleeping at all and she was really crabby. I made him leave when she was a day old and that was the best decision ever... If he is being to overbearing ask him to leave and take you home when you leave the hospital.. my sperm donor was allowed back in the house after 2 days and didn't show till she was 2 months old. You need to let him come over a lot but living with you is not an option and try doing every other day or for an hour here and there if he is close.. you need boundaries and if you are tense the baby will be really upset too.. just think what you want and tell him..

Sharing is hard, wish I could tell you it gets easier but having two daughters now that I share SUCKS. The best thing to do is be honest, give him scheduled times to see the baby, like in the morning when you want to shower and eat and maybe in the evening when you need a little break. Take all the time you need and want, its a hard thing to do, I wish you the very best :)

I would tell him exactly how you feel with regard to you wanting him to be apart of his son's life but also that you would appreciate some time with your son alone since there isn't much benefit having in around 24/7 since he aint gonna be there to support you's financially. I believe that you have every right to set boundaries because you the one that will be there for your son financially as well as psychologically etc. You being selfless @ least giving him rights to see his son, he shouldn't take advantage of that privilege because I know some single parents that didn't allow the baby daddy's any where near the baby, so he should be grateful also should do things the way you want them. Best of luck. God bless.