Log In | Sign Up Now | Help & Support
Need Advice? Ask Your Question

Questions & Answers

Category: Postpartum

Asked by lilsunshine22

Q: Is it possible for Daddy to get the baby blues?

I have a beautiful healthy baby girl. She was born 1-11-14 and was 9lbs 9oz and 20 3/4in long. She will be 7 weeks tomorrow. My husband is wonderful with her and loves her dearly and I know he wouldn't harm her, but lately he seems a little depressed and withdrawn from her. He used to jump right in when I asked him to come join us for bath time or any fun activities but lately he just says something like ""no you know it all honey" or "she will start screaming if I come around". She does this because she has reflux, but he was sarcastic when I told him that. I don't know if he feels inadequate due to her wanting me mainly or because I can soothe her when she is upset. But I am with her 24/7, I just want to know if anyone else has had this problem and how can I help get him out of it. As I said my husband is a very loving husband and father, I just think he is down.

This question was asked Feb. 28, 2014 2:23pm
Category: Postpartum

Answer This Question

Answers (3)

Answered by MrsFoltzy9 - Mar. 1, 2014 3:03pm
(continued) shes a daddys girl all the way.

161 out of 319 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo

Answered by MrsFoltzy9 - Mar. 1, 2014 3:03pm
i know with my sister and her youngest my brother in law was very withdrawn from her and didnt even hold her half the time because she constantly wanted my sister. but my sister is a stay at home mom and shes constantly the one taking care of the girls. something that helped him was my sister going out for a girls day and having him stay at home with her and that way she seen that daddy was more the capable of taking care of her like mommy did. but i am sure its difficult.

with my daughter, my husband used to feel the same way but thats only because she's a child from a previous relationship. she sees him as daddy bc her "dad" hasnt been in her life at all since she was born (she was 3 when he and i got together) and when he told me it upset him when all she wanted was me when she was upset or scared or hurt. So what i did was step back and let him do all the things i usually did with her so she could understand daddy was there for her just as much as mommy. now shes a da

170 out of 317 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo

Answered by jennavee - Mar. 1, 2014 12:41am
It's a tough situation! Sometimes I think the idea of having a newborn is portrayed as all giggles and coos and quiet happy family. It's hard when that idea is shattered by poop and screaming!

Have you tried expressing your concerns with him? It sounds like he might be a little frustrated about being less experienced with her as you are. Maybe he feels like he's being told he's doing things the wrong way (hence the "no you know it all honey"). I know it was hard for me to step back and let my husband put a diaper on wrong way or burp the baby differently, etc.


153 out of 285 found this answer helpful
Was this answer helpful?  YesNo

Answer This Question

You are not logged in.
Log in or Register to post an answer to this question.

Other Questions in Postpartum