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We didn't want anyone at the hospital at any point I was there. Mostly because my son had some medical issues and no one could hold him anyways, but I also was in a lot of pain and wanted to be alone. We don't have many friends so it would be like the other poster where people who don't care about us normally would suddenly have an interest in our lives. My mom stopped in a couple of times (I needed my mom) and my MIL stopped by once, but again, they couldn't hold my son anyways. The first day I was there I told the nurses that I didn't want anyone there and if that was okay. The nurses have to buzz people into the OB unit, so they had control. Once my son was born and I 'announced' it on facebook, I politely said no visitors, please. Everyone understood and a lot of people said they respected that decision because when they were having a baby there were too many people. If you don' want people, tell them not to come!

I would just post a message on your facebook, or send the word out otherwise that you're not looking for company- that you want that time with just close family and that you will let everyone know when you're ready for company after you get home- BUT make it clear that they have to have an okay from you first! Just tell the close family that you want at the hospital that it's okay!

Thanks, lyssa7872. I really like your idea of 2 half hour sessions!

My husband was our official gate keeper lol but the nurses at my hospital were amazing. Ask yours if you guys can come up with a code word that means it's time to kick people out or not let people in. Most of the time they will ask you before letting people see you, and ours was "could you get me some grape soda?" was code for "get these people out!!!" :) I ended up having a late night c section so only hubby and my parents were around right away, then I limited it to 2 half hour sessions per day. But my husband really needed a job to do, and gate keeper was super helpful. He would go out and talk to people to tell them everything was okay, but that we needed space.