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I think another reason its not traditional to have more then 1 shower is because alot of couples are just married, or just starting out on their own when they have their first child, maybe just bought a house, etc. therefore family and friends like to help out with gifts and things. for the second child, people are more likely to be on their feet and more financially secure.

though i might be bitter too because this is my first and .. no one is throwing me a shower. I am buying everything I can as cheaply as i can (second hand mostly as is my mom) heh. ;) so.. sometimes also.. people *like myself* just don't have the support of others to "shower them" with baby gifts.

To be honest I never knew it was "looked down upon" to have additional showers after the first child and while I guess I can see where ladies are coming from with it being possibly "selfish" to have more than one shower after the first. There is some problems there: One.. what if your first was a boy so you have all this baby boy stuff and then your next is a girl?? Two: What if your first one is now like 7 8, 9, 10 yrs old or more? obviously by that time you would have gotten rid of a lot of that stuff. Also its not realistic to hang on to EVERYTHING after the baby. Maybe for a year or two but eventually for the sake of storage you would probably give it away. I have gotten most all of my things so far (clothes etc) for my lil man from mothers that just had babies within the last 2 years. Also.. a lot of baby items expire. So idk.. I don't see a problem with it personally. Unless you had like back to back babies or something.

I agree with the last post. of course everyone has their own opinion but i always considered it a bit selfish (im sure not intentionally) to have showers for more then 1 baby. Usually after your first you have most things you will need for the second anyway, and generally people may choose to buy something when they first visit the new baby.
a different idea would be a Diaper Party. which is where the dad to be has a get together with all his buddies and each friend that comes brings a pack of diapers. Its a good excuse to have some fun with the guys and get lots of diapers while at it! my brother did this and it was very successful.

This is my first baby and (my first shower is actually this week) and I do not want or expect a shower for any additional children I have. Where I'm from, rarely do women get showers for their 2nd, 3rd, etc. People who want to give gifts for 2nd, 3rd, etc. babies send or bring them after the baby is born. It's almost understood that when you have a shower, you bring a gift. So it seems like you are asking for more gifts when you've already been "showered" with baby presents. So, I personally always found it tacky and rude to have a shower for additional children, but there are other alternatives that I'm completely fine with. It's fairly common to bring a gift when a baby is born (no matter which child they are) and little get-togethers to meet the baby (where people aren't obligated to bring a present) seem fine too.

I think the opinions will vary depending on where you are from.

http://www.countdownmypregnancy.com/answers/question.php?qid=1439

Lots of feedback on a similiar question a couple of weeks ago (that's the link). Different ladies have different opinions. I think a lot of it also depends on where you are from and what's common there.