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To be honest I never knew it was "looked down upon" to have additional showers after the first child and while I guess I can see where ladies are coming from with it being possibly "selfish" to have more than one shower after the first. There is some problems there: One.. what if your first was a boy so you have all this baby boy stuff and then your next is a girl?? Two: What if your first one is now like 7 8, 9, 10 yrs old or more? obviously by that time you would have gotten rid of a lot of that stuff. Also its not realistic to hang on to EVERYTHING after the baby. Maybe for a year or two but eventually for the sake of storage you would probably give it away. I have gotten most all of my things so far (clothes etc) for my lil man from mothers that just had babies within the last 2 years. Also.. a lot of baby items expire. So idk.. I don't see a problem with it personally. Unless you had like back to back babies or something.

jkim..Well put! :)

this is my second baby, I don't expect a shower however we will probably have a meet the baby get together after they are born and I know some will bring gifts but thy won't be asked for them. With my first I had three surprise showers thrown for me and one welcome baby party after he was born. I had no part in planning other than being asked how long after baby was born we were comfortable with having the meet baby party. I think if a friend or family member plans a party that is different than initiating one for yourself. I do think a diaper and wipes party is a good idea maybe a hen party for the girls and a party night for the guys with donations of diapers and wipes welcome maybe. I also think meet the baby gatherings are great and people don't feel pressured for gifts but are likely to give something. Good Good luck and best wishes

I was going to say something similar as the very first lady who replied, I was going to say that every time I see a question like this is just seems so odd to me, it has to be due to where these women live because here in Michigan it's common and very welcomed to have a baby shower per child. I have never heard of anything like this until I joined this site. You are having a shower for that baby that is coming into this world, it's not like you are celebrating the same pregnancy/baby multiple times. Idk but this just seems really weird to me because here where I live, it would be odd to not have a shower for each baby.

This is my first baby and (my first shower is actually this week) and I do not want or expect a shower for any additional children I have. Where I'm from, rarely do women get showers for their 2nd, 3rd, etc. People who want to give gifts for 2nd, 3rd, etc. babies send or bring them after the baby is born. It's almost understood that when you have a shower, you bring a gift. So it seems like you are asking for more gifts when you've already been "showered" with baby presents. So, I personally always found it tacky and rude to have a shower for additional children, but there are other alternatives that I'm completely fine with. It's fairly common to bring a gift when a baby is born (no matter which child they are) and little get-togethers to meet the baby (where people aren't obligated to bring a present) seem fine too.

I think the opinions will vary depending on where you are from.

As this is my first little monkey and since I do not want or expect a shower for any additional children, I made sure that any larger items on my registry are completely gender neutral. I completely agree with the idea of community and having an opportunity to come together as a family but there are lots of ways to do that. And Of course there are exceptions,One of my DH's cousins had two babies fairly close in age (different genders), but between baby 1 and 2 they lost their home and everything in a hurricane....I had no problem at all when a shower was held for baby #2 because that was a special circumstance. One of my aunts had a teenager and got pregnant with her new husband...so a second shower in that case made sense too. There are always exceptions. But I know some people who have had back-to-back babies, same gender, who still expect showers...to me, that's tacky.

http://www.countdownmypregnancy.com/answers/question.php?qid=1439

Lots of feedback on a similiar question a couple of weeks ago (that's the link). Different ladies have different opinions. I think a lot of it also depends on where you are from and what's common there.

I think is perfectly ok to have a shower for each baby. I mean you dont just celebrate the birth of one of your kids , you celebrate them all :)

knicole..if i knew more people out here..we would have a double shower..lol Thanks for your response chica
Britany..I see your point...and valid when looked at that way. :) Thank you

though i might be bitter too because this is my first and .. no one is throwing me a shower. I am buying everything I can as cheaply as i can (second hand mostly as is my mom) heh. ;) so.. sometimes also.. people *like myself* just don't have the support of others to "shower them" with baby gifts.