Questions & Answers

I see where people think "tacky" . If you are expecting gifts... All of my family and friends (which live far) use this moment for a gathering reason. :) We thrive more in the unity more then the gift opening/receiving. I guess it depends on who you surround yourself with. If they know you..and know that your getting together for the celebration of life...then gifts are not what comes to mind when it comes to a shower. What ever happen to "it takes a village to raise a child.." Yes we are having the baby, with open arms invite others to help in certain areas..maybe that be with diapers and wipes, baby sitting, car pooling kiddos to school, showing up to graduations.In a material world it's easy to associate events with gift giving. So I understand the thought of tacky, or greedy.I think that could label some,but not all. Your not the only one that thinks that way tho..which is why I asked. :) i thought it was just the blog I read. Thanks for your honesty. ;) Food f

Its mostley a southern thing. It's 1 shower per family. It mostly liek you shoudlnt need anything on yoru 2nd kid type of thing. However, I agree it shoudlnt be a big deal. If you and yrou family want to do a shower per kid it should be fine. I want big shower but were int he military so my families in 4 different states lol nwo thats hard to do becaus ei dotn want travel accross country lol.

I agree with the last post. of course everyone has their own opinion but i always considered it a bit selfish (im sure not intentionally) to have showers for more then 1 baby. Usually after your first you have most things you will need for the second anyway, and generally people may choose to buy something when they first visit the new baby.
a different idea would be a Diaper Party. which is where the dad to be has a get together with all his buddies and each friend that comes brings a pack of diapers. Its a good excuse to have some fun with the guys and get lots of diapers while at it! my brother did this and it was very successful.

I do not believe there is anything wrong with having a baby shower per child. It's a great way for friends and family to get together to celebrate a new life. Maybe, like said by others, do something different for each child to make it unique and to keep it fun. either tell everyone not to bring anything or having everyone only bring whats absolutely needed like diapers, wipes, formula,even something for the nursery (wall hangings and other decorations) and maybe even clothes, if your 1st born was a boy and now ur expecting a girl. keep things interesting!

I am having a shower for this pregnancy (my second baby) but that is mainly because my first is nine and I had long since given away most of the things I had (and a lot got left behind in my divorce as well). I wasn't planning on having one to be honest but my sisters decided I had to have one and planned it all out.. I just got my invitation to it LOL.

I don't see the problem with having another shower for a different gender (long as you aren't asking for special pink/blue car seats strollers/bedding or whatnot) or having diaper parties; or like the one lady posted, because the family lost everything in a disaster. However I think a lot of people feel compelled to get a gift if they go to a shower, so if you really don't need anything I would make sure to specify that.

I think another reason its not traditional to have more then 1 shower is because alot of couples are just married, or just starting out on their own when they have their first child, maybe just bought a house, etc. therefore family and friends like to help out with gifts and things. for the second child, people are more likely to be on their feet and more financially secure.