Questions & Answers

Everything will work itself out. You are beautiful, strong and worth the affection and attention.I would definitely make him aware of your needs and let him know he has had you on a roller coaster about sex since you have been pregnant until now. Try to not let yourself get down pretty soon the wait will kill him and he will come around.

As far as feeling better about yourself, every woman I have had that conversation with was feeling out of sorts about their "New" body. I had gained a ton of weight with my first pregnancy and though I eventually lost it, I have stretch marks everywhere.....EVERYWHERE besides my belly. I know I felt so unattractive as well, even to the point when people would tell me I looked good I would just laugh at them. But in the grand scheme of things you have done something amazing that no man can truly appreciate. You grew, nurtured and gave birth to a beautiful new person. I'm sorry that he's not making you feel any better about it. He may just need more time which isn't really helpful for you, I know. Just keep telling yourself you are beautiful. Pick up some new lingerie to try to entice him.....do something nice for yourself. Good luck!

Lol! Your awesome ! I have a desk job as well and I swear that's why I had so much water weight during pregnancy. I just hope things get better I'm sick of feeling down ugh. And yes u should lol!

Seriously, why ISN'T there a class for that?! hahaha I'd sign mine up ASAP. ;)

Hmmm, sounds to me like he's being a little stubborn butt-face!! lol Mine doesn't like to dtd if I'm near my period or anything is out of sorts down there either. UGH So I know your frustration.

As for not feeling so hot - that get's a little easier to handle. The stretch marks fade, the weight comes off ALL the way if you try at it. You're still damn beautiful and he should be tellin' you that because GEEZ you JUST gave birth! It isn't like we're all Kim Kardashian with millions of dollars to spend on nanny's and special trainers to get us back to pre-baby within 2 seconds of giving birth! lol

I say you're doing amazing! I only lost all my weight within the 6-10 week mark postpartum after my 1st! The 2nd time around I hung unto like 20 lbs...and over the years I gained 80lbs! Simply from having a desk job and ignoring red flags.. :/

Want me to slap your hubby? lol

Aw thanks they should really have a class lol! I got cleared by doctor at 6 weeks and she told me it was set to go and he was there for that apt. Still didn't care. To make things worse my bday is Iin 4 days and he agreed to try then now I started spotting so he won't if I still am at that point. It just gets better and better. I'm so sick of feeling rejected/hurt/ unattractive. I don't get it I lost the majority of the weight just have a little in my thighs and stretch marks ugh

Oh baby doll....:/

I wish I could take the hurt away! I know how it feels to be "rejected" physically by hubby (mine told me I've gained too much weight and he wasn't attracted to me any more, OUCH). But just let the hurt resinate, let the feelings show and the pain will lessen over time. There isn't much you can do about how he see's it. Of course, he's WRONG. Because we all know the vagina is meant to return PRETTY close to its natural shape. Maybe the sight of the entire ordeal had just shaken him? I hope he eventually learns your vagina and vulva haven't really changed and will still feel amazing!!

**HUGS** Keep your chin up. Right now he needn't be makin' you feel "worse" about your body, postpartum is hard enough as it is. He needs some sensitivity 101, I tell ya! Maybe ours can go to class together.. ;)

xoxo <3