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Asked by sally28

Q: IVF or adoption?

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is fine. I recently came to know that I am infertile. I have been tried to conceive for the last 3 years. I took some medicines and every possible treatment to conceive naturally. Nothing seemed to work for me. I am now frustrated. I don't want to go through this pain now. I want to end this misery. I want to have a baby. I want happiness in my life. I am thinking of choosing an alternative now. But I am confused. I don't know what should I do. Should I go for surrogacy? Or adoption is a good way too? What do you guys suggest me?

This question was asked Apr. 8, 2018 12:22pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

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Answered by emma_grey - Apr. 11, 2018 1:58pm
Hi. I am good, and I hope you are also doing good. So sad to hear about your infertility. You are going through very tough time. but good to know that you are a very strong woman. Because it requires a lot of patience and courage to deal which such situations. Conceiving is always a big issue, mostly for new couples, Because of less experience. It's rear that someone gets success in their very first try. But there are always alternative ways. people preferred to go for adoption because there were not absolute solutions for infertility issues. Now there are more and better ways to conceive. Science has suggested treatments like IVF and surrogacy. surrogacy has benefited many infertile ones, in recent few decades. So, people prefer to go for surrogacy, instead of adoption. Having your own baby is always better than adopting someone’s baby. There is no guarantee that adopted child will always be with you forever. So, my suggestion is to go for surrogacy. I hope this will work for yo

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Answered by babylove14 - Apr. 9, 2018 11:24pm
I agree with the previous post, however, I would chose IVF first. I say this only because you said you have problems conceiving. If the baby is already conceived, you might carry it just fine. If I had problems carrying a baby, then I would go for adoption or surrogacy. The down side to that is you risk more time lost and disappointment if it doesn't work. Like the previous response, they all have pros and cons. I would definitely recommend you and your husband consult a fertility specialist or some sort of expert and have them help you decide what is best you. Good luck in whatever you choose!

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Answered by roseleslie32 - Jun. 24, 2018 1:10pm
Hi, I can totally understand you, Unexplained infertility is frustrating. I would suggest you go for surrogacy instead of IVF treatments as surrogacy has a very high success rate. I went through IVF treatments too but it didn't work for me because it is dependent on your body's response and based on luck. IVF was painful too but what scared me more was the outcome and unfortunately, it was negative. I didn't go for the second round and then my doctor suggested me surrogacy and now I am a mother now. Surrogacy is way better than adoption because you get to have your own child of same blood and genes. Best of luck! xx

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Answered by VeronicaStrafford - Aug. 4, 2018 4:26pm
Hi Sally. Infertility can be hard. I was diagnosed as infertile too. I can feel what you are going through. Infertility not only broke me but it also broke my husband too. Due to our bad mental health our marriage suffered too. We have seen some bad times. Although adoption is good. You are giving home to an orphan but it has its own complications. Adopting is a very hard process. It could take months for the authorities to allow you to adopt. Even after adoption you will have to face many problems. The adopted child will take a lot of time to warm up to you and can have serious health issues as well. I chose surrogacy and got pregnant. So i can say that pregnancy is the best feeling ever. I will recommend you to go for IVF. But, choose your clinic wisely. Make sure their services are professional. My first experience with a clinic named L***s didnt go well because the clinic i emailed never replied even though i kept mailing them for months. How unprofessional. IVF is the answer.

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 5, 2018 3:52pm
Hey Sally! You are doing best. Hope you are doing great now. Your story and the way you conveyed is best. Infertility is yet difficult to suffer. But don't lose hope. It's not in your own hands. I think this happens to make you braver. More independent. I know this heartache. I've also gone through this. I opted for the IVF. IVF is the other best option you can opt for. I am really happy for you. I cannot explain my feelings in words. You just get my heart. I wish may you grow more and have a great life. Take care.

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Answered by tenny99 - Jun. 24, 2018 7:51pm
Hi. Hope you are good? Infertility is very difficult to face. I am sorry about your problem. parenthood is a gift. Feeling to become a mother is the best feeling in the world. This can only feel an infertile woman. Every couple wants to hold their own children. when you come to know that you are infertile, worst moment ever. You can think about surrogacy as well. You will have your own child. best wishes and prayers.

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Answered by tressalee - Jun. 24, 2018 7:47pm
Hi. Hope you are fine? I am really sorry to know about your miscarriages. You had faced for a long time. It is hard to face. Please don't worry there are other options. for your situation surrogacy is the best option. You can opt for that. Good wishes.

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 5, 2018 3:53pm
Hey Sally! You are doing best. Hope you are doing great now. Your story and the way you conveyed is best. Infertility is yet difficult to suffer. But don't lose hope. It's not in your own hands. I think this happens to make you braver. More independent. I know this heartache. I've also gone through this. I opted for the IVF. IVF is the other best option you can opt for. I am really happy for you. I cannot explain my feelings in words. You just get my heart. I wish may you grow more and have a great life. Take care.

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Answered by stella009 - Jul. 5, 2018 1:48pm
I hope you are doing fine. Don't worry. Everything will be fine. My friend was infertile. She faced it for 7 years. In this time she ttc for so long. But after no result, she went for IVF. It was good to choose. but she miscarried and then never conceived. In the end, she thought about adoption. But her husband wanted own genetic baby. They chose surrogacy. They have a baby now. They went to a clinic in Europe. They have a healthy baby. Se just turned 9 months now.

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Answered by rihana012 - Jul. 5, 2018 1:27pm
Hey. I am so sorry. Infertility is hard to overcome. Many couples are coping with it. I am not in favour of adoption. IVF is a great procedure. Youcan have a genetic baby. In adoption, you have to bring up someone else baby. So I am not in its favour. Secondly, IVF is a risky procedure. It is not so successful procedure. Many people avoid these. They choose surrogacy. Surrogacy is the safe and successful procedure. I hope this would help you.

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