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I felt the same way with my last pregnancy I was convinced it was a girl, and it turned out it was def not a girl! I was so angry I cried on the way home from my appt, cried on the couch for hours after I got home, took me a while to accept i was having a boy.. and now he is 3 and I couldn't imagine life without him.. I feel so guilty.lol I love him with all my heart, now I'm pregnant again I find out what I'm having wed , I really want a girl so bad again, but I know now.god willvgive me what I need :)

Actually this is not my first child, but obviously you are too closed minded to think about the psychological impact that previous children, upbringing and nurture have on this subject.
Firstly, I do not love my child any less, in fact I didn't even realise I had a preference. As stated I am trying to understand my reaction as it shocked me. I do not resent my baby, it doesn't even say that in my post.
When you leave your closed off box then maybe you will understand that this is a reaction I have no control over and by being open about it I will understand it and be a better a person.
Perhaps you need to be less harsh and critical.

I know how you feel. I have a son and I went a couple days ago to find out the gender of baby #2. I'm hoping for a girl, but it decided not to show the bits and kept the legs crossed and the cord was in the way. Then right at the end, the tech *thought* she saw testicles for a second but not totally sure. My husband would love to have 2 boys and we are pretty sure we won't try for a 3rd child. I want to a have a little girly girl so I can sew her all the cute dresses and everything. I don't know when I will find out for sure. It's ok to be a little disappointed after you have been thinking it probably was a girl. I'm sure your son is happy to have a brother? Do you still have any of his baby stuff? That might make it easier for you since you are a single mother. There are plenty of benefits of having two boys. I know that feel bro. It doesn't make you a bad person for wanting to have one of each. I hope all is well for you.

yer and plus I have lost count of how many people I have heard say I hope my baby isnt ginger - I had a friend do this, she had a little girl with bright red hair - oh ya have to laugh :)

I was the same with my 2nd child even though I wanted a girl so bad I felt he would be a boy...at my gender scan I cried when they confirmed I would have my 2nd boy...I had envisioned myself all my life as a mother of a daughter and my first 2 babies were boys...I was heartbroken but after my son was born it all went away. My 3rd baby I knew right away I would have a girl, I just felt completely different and I was right! Then I met my now Husband, and found out that I was expecting a baby with him and even though I so wanted my daughter to have a sister I knew it was a boy I never had a doubt! So now I am the mother of 3 boys and 1 girl, and wouldnt change it for the world! I am now expecting baby #5 and have a gut feeling it will be my next girl I find out next month what I'll be having :) Dont worry those feelings are completely normal :)

erm its normal, I had a boy, and with my second I so wished for a girl and when I went for the 20 week scan and they told me it was a girl, I was gutted, didn't mean I loved the baby any less, and I know it doesn't mean that for you, and of course I was very happy that everything was going great. the more my pregnancy went on I just forgot about it, and when he was born I completely forgot I had wanted a girl, until the next time I was pregnant :) when I went for my 20 week scan with my third, I joked if this is a boy I am going to kill someone or myself ( a complete joke obviously ) baby was healthy and that time I got my girl, with my 4th I wanted another girl, but that ended in a mc at 11 weeks :( now I am 14 weeks 4 days and I hope I have a girl, but after my mc I will be happy if it comes out a baby monkey :), my mum had 3 girls and miscarried 3 times all boys, people can just carry one sex, took me 3 attempts to have a girl, you didnt mention how many children you have?

Since you are "trying to find out where these feelings are coming from", then might i suggest the problem lies in the fact you "convinced yourself you were having a girl", and then to your shock and dismay found out you are having a boy?

Sounds to me like the convincing yourself of something that wasn't true is the root of your dismay.

Thank you for your responses, glad to see others understand it. I had my U/s today so it's still new and I have to adjust.
I was so convinced it was my girl, you know, the last one to make my final set. I don't want anymore since I'm a single parent and want to have the best life possible for us all. Anyway, I have a beautiful boy already...he's truly amazing and I'm sure this one will be the cherry on my cake. HH9M's to you all x

kn how u feel hun
my 2 yaer old a girl

and thi time i really thougt i was a boy even beted 50 quid on it
but im actually pregnant with a girl again i was gutted at 1st took me 2-3 days to get a grip of myself
but now really happy and just gla she healthy but only planed on having 2 kids but it made think do we try again for a boy

I felt the same way. I really wanted a boy and I am pregnant with a girl. I have 4 kids and only 1 girl and she is my oldest. We have an amazing relationship and I can NEVER see me having the same with another child. It has been hard but I'm getting better. I am hoping that all my feelings will go away when she is actually here.