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I'm 1 of 5 kids....2 which have passed & 1 that was given up for adoption....being that my birth mother doesnt have anything to do with me but does with her other 2 children, they dont know I'm their sister, So therefore leaving me without siblings to have around...my opinion, don't do adoption. I am unable to find my brother & it hurts to not know him. I have kids of my own..I was a teen mom & know what its like 2 try to care for 2 children alone....I made it & am now older, married having my 3rd child after 8 yrs of struggling with 2...its possible to do. If you don't want anymore children then get your tubes tied to save yourself from anymore hurt.

Also, you know how hard it is to be in this position. Do not fall into the thinking of "love is all you need". Love, in itself, is often not enough to raise and take care of a child. Love alone will not produce money for diapers and food and clothes and doctor's visits. Love will not break a fever and love alone will not fill a hungry belly or remove an infection. You can do this.

You have made an incredibly self-less decision! It requires a level of maturity that most teens cannot even dream of. Be very selective in your search for parents for the baby. Do you want them to be religious? Rich? Young? Middle age? Strict? Would you prefer that your baby comes up in a middle income house so she learns what it is to earn the life she wants rather than having it handed to her? Or do you want her to have everything in the world that you could possibly never give her? Do you want an open adoption where you could get updates and even visit her? Or do you want a closed adoption so that once it's done, it's done. Remember that you are putting her best interests before your own. It is about giving her what she needs. It is hard not to feel some level of regret, but get ahold of a support group made up of girls who have been in your shoes. It will help tremendously. Prayers and love. You can do it!

YOUNG MOMS, OLDER MOMS, NOONE KNOWS HOW TO BE A MOM BEFOREHAND. KNOWLEDGE COMES WITH EXPERIENCE.IF YOU LOVE YOUR CHILD YOU WOULD MAKE A GOOD MOM EVEN WITH NOTHING. YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE TO TAKE THE DECISION BUT IF YOU HAVE ANY DOUBTS SEARCH DEEP IN YOUR HEART.

Nobody knows the future and nobody can guarantee that a new family would love more your child than you.Open your arms and give your children what you have plenty:love

I think that you are a better mother for placing your baby for adoption. It is such an amazing and selfless act. Just because you can handle your 2 yr old doesn't mean you can handle another one right now. It's going to be hard, you already seem to know that. Everytime you start to regret it, just think of how much better her life is going to be. Have you looked into an open adoption so that you could still visit and get updates on how she's doing? That might help. Again, I have so much respect for you for making this very very hard decision in the benefit of your daughter.

Adoption is a very difficult choice, one that only you can make after looking at all the options. If you keep her would you have emotional and financial support? Do you feel that you could be a good mom to tow babies while being so young? Do you even want to be a mom for a second time?

Talk to an adoption agency and speak to other teen moms who have placed their kids for adoption. Eventually yo will make a choice that is right for you.

Good luck

I think you are already regretting it.Girl, you have made it with one, you can do it!Keep your girly.The only thing that matters in life is our babies,not money,not career, not boyfriends.Women have such a strength.