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Mother-in-Law help
By gotababylady » Posted Feb. 7, 2014 9:49am - 723 views - 11 comments

I'm really at my wits end. I don't know what to say or do. She has this annoying need to name her grand children. She renamed our first born and all the family just follows her lead. Now that she knows we are having a little girl she has also decided the name we have chosen is not to her liking so she announced on FB last night the name she has chosen. With our oldest we named him Robert (after Dh) Paul(after GF) . We call him Paul. It was his grandfathers name and it fits him to a tee. She and all of her family call him Robert. He is ten and has asked her to call him Pail many times. She flat out refuses and makes ridiculous excuses as to why she will not respect his or our wishes. For our daughter we have chosen Mckenzie Grace. Not only has she decided that she will not call her by this name she has completely renamed our daughter. She announce last night that the family will be calling her Tuti. She says it was her mother nickname and has demanded everyone else call the baby this as well. I'm so upset. I know she means it and that nothing I say will change her mind or convince everyone to let us name our own baby. I am not a confrontational person. I have a hard time speaking up but I did and I begged her to respect our choice, she flat out refused. I don't want a family war but I hate that she is always butting into my life!!! What do I do how can I fix this problem?

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	Comment from gotababylady » Posted Feb. 7, 2014 10:50am My Dh talked to her yesterday. He told her that renaming the baby was unexceptable. She said she doesn't care what we say she will call the baby whatever she wants. After he talked to her is when she announced her chosen name on fb. My dh works nights so he doesn't know yet but when he gets up I know he will be very upset. I hate that she is ruining this special moment for us. I really appreciate your support ladies. We will see what happens when my Dh gets up. Hopefully he will be able to get through to his mom.
	Comment from kimmy85 » Posted Feb. 7, 2014 10:37am I agree with Amanda maybe its time he says something to her. My MIL is similar but not nearly as bad as yours (sorry :( ) But no one in his family likes the name that we are thinking for our boy but I don't care lol its our babies not theirs and that point needs to be made apparent unfortunately. I'm sorry she bummed out your day!! Don't let her ruin anymore of your families precious moments!! *hugs*
	Comment from mrsamanda » Posted Feb. 7, 2014 10:21am This is where you and I differ. I have absolutely no problem speaking my mind and telling people what I think. Although, I do try to tone it down a bit when it's my DH's family, just to try to keep the peace. But when people won't stop butting into your lives or respecting your wishes, maybe it's time to have your husband step in and tell his mother to stop with the nonsense. Atleast that is my opinion.