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28+4 wks - Hard decisions and Crappy doctors
By calvingirl » Posted Oct. 13, 2018 11:19pm - 528 views - 9 comments
I had an awful week. On wednesday I met with the GD specilaist/counselor on what I "thought" was going to be a consultation, but which turned out being them taking 3 vials of blood from my HAND because the first nurse couldn't find my vein and then let it slip out so nearly a whole vial of blood ended up running down my arm onto the floor - so the second nurse just opted for squeezing the 3 vials from the back of my hand (a process if you've ever had done, you'd know hurts like hell and takes forever.) The whole process took almost 45 min - adding in the time for my fainting and recovery. Then, they just stuck me in a class with three other girls that are around 35-37 wks along...so what the hell do they care about this, they're about to have their babies. Nurse spent the whole time focusing on this diet which none of these girls will follow or understand, and that is so outdated. I showed that I'd been eating just like that for weeks and still no control over my blood sugar. She just dismissed me and told me to "talk to my ob about it" then went on to these three other girls who were upset they had to give up their cupcakes.
So then my Friday appt with my OB was awful too. They hadn't warned me (again) that they were taking blood (again) not 48 hrs after the last catastrophe, and they had a fit when I said I wasn't going to get the prenatel rhogam shot while I was sick. I burst into tears when they gave me a hard time about it and they finally relented, but are making me come back next week to get both done. They just did a full CBC panel at 24 weeks? WTH didn't they do an antibody test then??
Most importantly, they wouldn't listen to me when I said I've lost over 5lbs, my bump has shrunk in half and baby's movements are different and reduced. I get faint after eating and pretty much feel like crap all the time. Her answer was, "According to OUR scale, you've only lost 2lbs, so that's ok, and you've better get your blood sugar under control or we'll have to transfer you because we don't deal with patients that need insulin." NO compassion or even a discussion about the baby. She agreed to get an ultrasound in two weeks to check on her growth - best I could get out of her.
I've had so much trouble wtih this office. I'm so done. I can't deal with them anymore. Didn't they go to fucking medical school too? A healthy baby and mom need very little expertise - she's gonna have that baby no matter what. The doctors are SUPPOSED to be there to detect any problems and then DEAL WITH THOSE PROBLEMS. This office apparently only shows up to catch the healthy babies and transfers everyone else. I might as well transfer myself full time to the Maternal Fetal Medicine doctors before they do anyway. It means I have to give up using the hospital by my house with the new maternity ward, but instead go to a shitty hospital an hour away where my son died - a building I swore I'd never walk into again. It also means I'm stuck with all the medicaid patients with an average waiting room wait of 2+hrs each appt and because they are technically high risk doctors, it's gonna be twice as expensive.
Every day goes by, I'm more emotional, I have more meltdowns, and I can't handle the stress of doctors that won't listen to me - even to humor me. Every time I have a question about anything or express any concern, they threaten to transfer me and then tell me how awful that'd be. They have me scared shitless and I'm crying every day over it. I can't do it anymore. I need help and they obviously aren't going to help me.
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28+4 wks - Hard decisions and Crappy doctors
By calvingirl » Posted Oct. 13, 2018 11:19pm - 528 views - 9 comments
I had an awful week. On wednesday I met with the GD specilaist/counselor on what I "thought" was going to be a consultation, but which turned out being them taking 3 vials of blood from my HAND because the first nurse couldn't find my vein and then let it slip out so nearly a whole vial of blood ended up running down my arm onto the floor - so the second nurse just opted for squeezing the 3 vials from the back of my hand (a process if you've ever had done, you'd know hurts like hell and takes forever.) The whole process took almost 45 min - adding in the time for my fainting and recovery. Then, they just stuck me in a class with three other girls that are around 35-37 wks along...so what the hell do they care about this, they're about to have their babies. Nurse spent the whole time focusing on this diet which none of these girls will follow or understand, and that is so outdated. I showed that I'd been eating just like that for weeks and still no control over my blood sugar. She just dismissed me and told me to "talk to my ob about it" then went on to these three other girls who were upset they had to give up their cupcakes.
So then my Friday appt with my OB was awful too. They hadn't warned me (again) that they were taking blood (again) not 48 hrs after the last catastrophe, and they had a fit when I said I wasn't going to get the prenatel rhogam shot while I was sick. I burst into tears when they gave me a hard time about it and they finally relented, but are making me come back next week to get both done. They just did a full CBC panel at 24 weeks? WTH didn't they do an antibody test then??
Most importantly, they wouldn't listen to me when I said I've lost over 5lbs, my bump has shrunk in half and baby's movements are different and reduced. I get faint after eating and pretty much feel like crap all the time. Her answer was, "According to OUR scale, you've only lost 2lbs, so that's ok, and you've better get your blood sugar under control or we'll have to transfer you because we don't deal with patients that need insulin." NO compassion or even a discussion about the baby. She agreed to get an ultrasound in two weeks to check on her growth - best I could get out of her.
I've had so much trouble wtih this office. I'm so done. I can't deal with them anymore. Didn't they go to fucking medical school too? A healthy baby and mom need very little expertise - she's gonna have that baby no matter what. The doctors are SUPPOSED to be there to detect any problems and then DEAL WITH THOSE PROBLEMS. This office apparently only shows up to catch the healthy babies and transfers everyone else. I might as well transfer myself full time to the Maternal Fetal Medicine doctors before they do anyway. It means I have to give up using the hospital by my house with the new maternity ward, but instead go to a shitty hospital an hour away where my son died - a building I swore I'd never walk into again. It also means I'm stuck with all the medicaid patients with an average waiting room wait of 2+hrs each appt and because they are technically high risk doctors, it's gonna be twice as expensive.
Every day goes by, I'm more emotional, I have more meltdowns, and I can't handle the stress of doctors that won't listen to me - even to humor me. Every time I have a question about anything or express any concern, they threaten to transfer me and then tell me how awful that'd be. They have me scared shitless and I'm crying every day over it. I can't do it anymore. I need help and they obviously aren't going to help me.
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 | Comment from cmere84 » Posted Oct. 14, 2018 12:42am If baby is moving less and your not feeling well you just need to find another Dr. .... They should be listening to your concerns more and keeping a closer eye on what is going on. |
