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My Due Date: August 15, 2016I have given birth!
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The Internets and Mother Bullying
By sunshinebear711 » Posted Jul. 27, 2016 6:44pm - 307 views - 4 comments
Oy. So I have a pregnancy tracker app on my phone, and I've noticed that people are SUPER judgmental there. Against my better judgment, I posted about how I'm no longer needing an early c-section or induction due to the shift in test results, and IMMEDIATELY I started getting responses about how it is unethical for doctors to do c-sections for newborn size if they are under 11lbs, and it is unnessecary to induce and blah blah blah... Obviously they didn't read that all of that was going to be due to concern for Jaime's and my health because of the GD, hypertension, and extreme excess amniotic fluid (seriously, at one point I was at 30 and "high average" was 23) and if my water broke I was in danger of losing him depending on how the fluid came out and if the umbilical cord and placenta came out before he did.
And I just deleted it all. I'm tired of it. Any time someone posts a question, there are tons of people jumping all over them. I don't understand why mothers have to be so hateful to others and constantly criticize decisions.
It is in these communities that I feel like we need to band together and offer each other support. Being a mother is hard work in itself, not to mention if you are a single mom/working mom or have more than one child, or have no family or support system. Women need to stop bullying each other, especially anonymously online. We get enough crap from everyone else as it is.
I'm just glad that I've only ever met very lovely people on this site and thank you all for the support you have given me during my 9 months pregnant with my daughter and the most recent months with my son. (Who has not shown any sign of calming down, even during contractions this morning he was slam dancing around so I was in so much pain I couldn't move)
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The Internets and Mother Bullying
By sunshinebear711 » Posted Jul. 27, 2016 6:44pm - 307 views - 4 comments
Oy. So I have a pregnancy tracker app on my phone, and I've noticed that people are SUPER judgmental there. Against my better judgment, I posted about how I'm no longer needing an early c-section or induction due to the shift in test results, and IMMEDIATELY I started getting responses about how it is unethical for doctors to do c-sections for newborn size if they are under 11lbs, and it is unnessecary to induce and blah blah blah... Obviously they didn't read that all of that was going to be due to concern for Jaime's and my health because of the GD, hypertension, and extreme excess amniotic fluid (seriously, at one point I was at 30 and "high average" was 23) and if my water broke I was in danger of losing him depending on how the fluid came out and if the umbilical cord and placenta came out before he did.
And I just deleted it all. I'm tired of it. Any time someone posts a question, there are tons of people jumping all over them. I don't understand why mothers have to be so hateful to others and constantly criticize decisions.
It is in these communities that I feel like we need to band together and offer each other support. Being a mother is hard work in itself, not to mention if you are a single mom/working mom or have more than one child, or have no family or support system. Women need to stop bullying each other, especially anonymously online. We get enough crap from everyone else as it is.
I'm just glad that I've only ever met very lovely people on this site and thank you all for the support you have given me during my 9 months pregnant with my daughter and the most recent months with my son. (Who has not shown any sign of calming down, even during contractions this morning he was slam dancing around so I was in so much pain I couldn't move)
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 | Comment from babylove14 » Posted Jul. 31, 2016 9:56pm I completely agree with you. I'll bever understand why so much hatred. You don't have to agree with what people do. I haven't dealt with as much in pregnancy besides a rude nurse questioning me about being pregnant at age 22 with my first child like i was a baby. I've heard it all about breastfeed though and it's ridiculous. Don't let it get to you though. You are doing what you need for your baby and that's all that matters. Sorry you had to deal with that though :( |
| Comment from nreiselpn » Posted Jul. 27, 2016 10:04pm In the end breast/bottle, c section/vaginally, induced/natural we all have the same goal.....one day I want to be old playing with my children's children and my grandchildren arnt going to care about any of the above....remember when your holding your beautiful baby boy no matter when or how he gets here all that matters is that you are both here to share that moment..... |
 | Comment from sunshinebear711 » Posted Jul. 27, 2016 9:32pm Bless you for everything you just said!!! And your bravery to go through this so many times! It's also the whole breast feeding vs bottle feeding and what not. You do what you feel is best for your baby and yourself. My midwife was very understanding of my fear of a c-section, and we've had serious conversations about it, but then I've also told her and the doctor flat out that if they think I need one to do it because I am not going to be one of the many people I know who is in labor for 36 hours just to have him be stuck and have to have a c-section anyways. Three friends in the last year have had that happen, and it has had so much of an emotional impact on them and their feel of being failures as mothers. I am already predisposed to I can't imagine what it would o to that. |
| Comment from nreiselpn » Posted Jul. 27, 2016 9:18pm I just had this thought this morning a mother came on telling stories on how she could feel her baby move at 14 weeks everyone started slamming her saying it's impossible who cares if she thinks she can feel her baby what does it matter to some one else ..... well said expecially with your case suddenly other women are doctors over riding what your doctor thinks is best for you and your baby.... you go girl. I'm on my 9th pregnancy if all goes well my 5th live birth iv heard it all. Post away I'm here for support not to play doctor |
