Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 9:01pm
I was the child who when my parents got divorced and my dad for remarried I didn't see him anymore. It is hurtful. I think it is a great quality in a man to love his kids when the relation is over because so many men don't. To this day my father is still not in my life and will not know his grandson. Try to see if from everyone involved point of view. He can show both children that they are loved equally.
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Answered by kaylia2oo5 - May. 20, 2012 8:27pm
your name. I'd never even had a chance to defend myself, as you cannot explain everything out over this website.
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Answered by kaylia2oo5 - May. 20, 2012 8:25pm
The member who posted the 1st comment onto this question is directing their rude comments towards me. I am going through the same thing with my Hubby- he has a daughter that he wanted not a thing to do with until we showed up pregnant. I had supported him, encouraged him to be there for her, etc., and it was always that he didnt want to, or didnt have enough time. After we found out we are pregnant, he decided he was going to go for custody of her (even though he's seen her only 3 times in almost a year and 1/2, which was completely his choice), etc. About 2-3 weeks after that, he hauled his horns in and I haven't heard anything more about her. I had supported him in the idea of going for custody of her, but it seemed to be like a passing whim. If you'd like to talk more you can inbox me :)
And to the 1st "member" who posted an answer to this, I'd love for you to inbox me too- you've posted rude comments onto my questions before too, but do not have the gull to post
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 8:02pm
don't expect your marriage to last. if hes smart.
i cant believe someone would even ask such a question as this. HOW DARE YOU expect your husband to choose favorites.
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 7:39pm
My husband and I are waiting for our second right now and I would never dream of making my husband say he loved one more than the other. Frankly, your attitude is despicable and you should be ashamed of yourself.
There are two sides to every story and you might find your daughter in the same shoes as her half brother when "daddy" leaves you high and dry and gets another woman pregnant who doesn't want him to love your daughter as much as their child.
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 6:45pm
So to hear this kind of question..I'm fairly certain that instead of sitting here..thinking of the nicest way to word it..People are giving you the REAL first thoughts of REALITY! It may not make you happy...but..girlfriend..you need a kick in the butt. i understand we all a brash emotions while pregnant..but..what you are mad at your hubby for is plane undignified! You need to get your family into counseling YESTERDAY! Do not let this break another family up..I think there is plenty of heartbreak in this situation already. Mothers job 101...
You are the glue to your family!
You are the nurturer
you are the heart
you are the strength
you are what keeps the circle whole!
Before you start pushing a child with endless love away..and before you start telling daddy that its not ok to love this child..go look in the mirror and ask yourself.. If this would be ok if it was being asked of him to treat your daughter this unruly.
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 6:38pm
Seems to me that you are not prepared enough for reality. You came on here..the question/answer log looking for opinions. People gave you there non sugar coated opinion and you were not prepared for their straight forward answer..Just like you are not prepared to except a few things in your husbands relationship..I would have to say...this is one of those times that you should pull youre big girl panties up and take this with stride! Because the women on here are women who are proud PARENTS.. Proud to share with the world, Proud to be able to love a child..or another child..or even their 5th child. These are women who have been trying to have children....but keep losing them, women who have tried ten times after m/c and finally are blessed with a sticky baby...If you were looking for people to rub your back and tell you it's ok...this is not the place for you! I think Im speaking for most here...we are proud loving mothers who love that we are extending our families..part 1
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 6:14pm
No one is bashing you, you just seem upset because no one is agreeing with you. If i was in your situation, I assure you, I would still believe that my DH had every right to love his son and I would encourage that relationship. I wouldn't be worried about my DH not loving my daughter enough. I'd probably be more concerned if he DIDN'T want a relationship with his son. Children shouldn't have to suffer because of problems with the parents.
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Answered by a member - May. 20, 2012 5:54pm
if you are not careful, you may get blamed in the future for him not pursuing a relationship with his son. and that could get pretty nasty. i would support him, and encourage him to have his rights to his son.... and not act childish about him loving his son. u really shouldn't be jealous that your daughter will have to "share" her father. this has nothing to do with his ex wife and everything to do with his son. his child!!!! you should have a little sympathy for this kid and stop acting like a kid yourself. im sorry you are not getting the answers you want, but if you are open to your husband about your feelings on the subject, i can promise you he will resent you for it in the future.
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Answered by knicole27 - May. 20, 2012 5:37pm
maybe put yourself in his son's shoes. I have been in his shoes personally and it hurt me so much as a child being in the middle of custody battles, he said she said stuff, crap talking etc. Its really hard for children to be in this situation. I used to think my dad did not love me for a long time. It cost me many many years of counseling since I was a preteen. I did not realized the real "issues" until I was much older which had nothing to do with me but all to do with my mother and father and how they "handled" things... Finally I started a relationship with my father in my early teens but he re-married when I was 10 and my step mother had a hard time accepting me in the family for a long time. It was and has been VERY hard for me because of all this so.. please please.. think of this little boy and sensitive most of all to his feelings. It not easy for these children at all. I know from personal experience.
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