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I had a missed miscarriage back in 2011, I had a second opinion right away but it didn't change the results. I refused to have the D&C and I refused a pill to help it along. I waited an extra week to miscarry naturally. It was extremely hard on me emotion and mentally. I'm hoping yours goes the other way. If it turns out for the worse don't try again right away, take the time to grieve and when the time is right you will be blessed with a little one.

had one back in january after i was booked in hospital they gave me some tablets to open the cervix aprpx 2 hrs later i was taken for general anastetic and cant remember the thing till i woke up about 1.5 hrs later didnt even bleed a lot it was more like spotting i was 13w gone by then was discharge the same day
sorry for your loss xxx

I can't answer your question about a d&c since I've never had one. I just wanna say I think maybe you should change your doctor all together. Even if she is right (fingers crossed she is not) she should not push you like that. My doctor with my last pregnancy tried to get me to termniate my son and I changed doctors. That made my pregnancy much better because the new doctors office treated me like a normal patient and were caring whereas my old dr office had written him off as not worth living. It turns out he is perfectly healthy. Go with what YOU feel is best and if your doctor doesn't accept that, get a new one. Best of wishes to you. Good luck with everything.

So sorry about to hear about your loss its always hard losing a baby. I have had 2 d&C's done n once I took a pill to abort the pregnancy due to no heartbeat at 8 weeks. The d&c does not hurt they put you to sleep n it take about an hour. They asks a lot of questions and don't know if they will ask you but my doctor had me sign a form asking them to take care of the fetus/ embryo for me. May u have a fast recovery again so sorry.

I'm so sorry for your loss.. I have been through this missed miscarriages before and it's not easy at all. Don't do what I did though and use alcohol as a replacement. I was so hurt and so upset, I drank so heavily I gave myself stomach ulcers which I still suffer from. I too have a hard time even now getting excited or connecting to my pregnancy, I keep expecting the worst to happen even though I'm 33 weeks. It's still not real that she'll be here. Try to get ahold if some grief support and make sure to talk to your hubby about everything your going through, noes the time you need him most.

glad you got the 2nd opinion. please wait...retroverted uteruses make it so much harder to get accurate results.

YAY!!!! I'm so glad for that second opinion!

I'm so sorry for your loss :-( I've been through this myself. I had three losses in 18 months between my second baby and this one, 2 of them requiring a D&C just like yours happened. And a couple before the second baby, and one before my first baby. I know how hard it is. When i got pregnant this time, i had a really hard time connecting with the pregnancy because of the prior losses. I was so afraid it would happen again so i didn't let myself get attached for a long time. It really hasn't been until the last two months or so that i finally feel like there really is a live baby in there that is going to be born soon, and im almost 7 1/2 months now! Don't give up. Let yourself feel the sadness because ignoring it will only make it feel worse. But don't get lost in it either. Give yourself a couple months and try, try again. I'll be thinking of you ;-)

You really need a new doctor. I think you should wait, but it sounds like something might be going on. Hopefully things continue to progress and are normal. Maybe just waiting a week or so until you're even further along, giving baby time to grow and be easier to see? If you are going to miscarry you will regardless but in the meantime it would give you a little break from all this madness and then hopefully you'll be far enough along that you can get some clear answers!

Thank you so much for your replies ladies, do I wait with the D&C? ...I mean if the pulse is sooo weak and the baby measures so far behind is the D&C inevitable anyway?... just a question of time (not if but when). Don't know what to think .....