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I go on friday for my first official appointment (even though I have seen the gynae before as I was previously admitted to hospital and have had my first u/s not that we could hearing anything, just saw a flicker). So friday he will be coming with. He is beyond excited to be a part of this.

No, simply because he had to work.
If we catch a termin when he doesn't work, he will surely come.
But, it doesn't matter if he miss all appointments, he can watch US pictures with me :D

Yes, my husband went to our first appointment. It didn't take 2 hours though....was just our first u/s at 5 weeks to make sure the gestational sac was there. We were there maybe 35 minutes.

My BF went. Lol, I didn't even ask him. He was just like, "when is our appointment?"

My hubby went to the first appointment and plans on going to every appointment there after. He wants to be very involved. It is really nice.

At our first appointment he was disappointed that the doctor didn't include him more :)

Yes! My boyfriend went with me. My first appointment was also an ultrasound appointment so he wanted to see. He's come to every ultrasound appointment, and any labwork I've needed done because I need to hold his hand when I get shots and blood drawn (I'm a big baby). Most of the other appointments are so short that I don't care if he goes or not. :)

My husband came to the first appointment. He also went to the ultrasound appointments and one other appointment so far so he could hear the baby's heartbeat. If he could have it his way, he'd go to every one. I asked him in the beginning if he wanted to to be involved in every appointment, or just the major ones. He said he'd like to come to them all, but he knows since our schedules conflict it would be hard. I schedule all major appointments for a time that works best for him. During one appointment he was there so he could hear the babys heartbeat. They had a hard time finding it which was SUPER scary for me. Im so glad he was there. If was alone, i probably would have been bawling my eyes out! Everything turned out fine, but its so nice to have someone there to support you. You never know!

I personally think it's good for the dad to be as involved as he can in the pregnancy. I know with my husband, he didn't even believe there was a baby in there until we went to the first appointment. My doctor gave me an ultrasound at mine and we both would've been upset if he wasn't there to see it. It's very different just seeing pictures and actually watching the ultrasound. My visit was only about an hour if that so it's not as long as you think. They're also gonna go through both of your medical histories, so it's good for that too.

My boyfriend insists on coming to every appointment too, although he generall doesn't say much there. I think he wants to be involved and wants to get the information first hand, which is fine by me. In the next few weeks, we have high-risk appointments including ultrasounds and and MRI which will tell us if the baby seems to have abnormalities and my boyfriend will be there for those, but in order for him not to use up all his sick days, I suggested he doesn't come to the regular appointments where all my doctor does is weigh me and check my blood pressure.
So I would say it's really his (and your) decision. He doesn't really NEED to be there, but if he wants to, it's certainly not a bad thing!

My husband insists on me making sure he knows in advanced every appt so hes there. This is our 3rd baby and he has been like that with both our others. At every appt every step of the way. I like he was there to be able to ask the Dr. his questions too and not just mine. =]