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Q: Missed miscarriage I needed to share my story with someone

I started to bleed at 16 weeks on a Saturday, went to the ultrasound on the Wednesday and was told my beautiful baby had died at 11 weeks 3 days, I was booked in for a d&c the next afternoon at 17 weeks exactly. I woke up at 6am went to the toilet and found I was bleeding severely, had to put on 3 pads soaked through them in about 30 seconds, then I got a towel, walked down the hallway to get a drink of water and got really light headed. Started swaying and started to panic so I went back up the hallway to wake my husband, he woke our 3 boys and we got in the car and drove 60 kilometres to the closest hospital, by the time I got to hospital I had blood covering from my boobs to my toes. They admitted me I was hooked up to a IV and was told I was losing to much blood and the doctor wanted to look inside me. My beautiful baby was stuck and my body couldn't push him/her out. The doctor had to pull baby out of me with tweezers.

This question was asked Mar. 25, 2013 11:52am
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Answered by a member - Mar. 25, 2013 4:36pm

I think the way you eventually heal is doing exactly what you are doing right now. Talking about it and listening to others. Countdown to pregnancy is a great place to meet other ladies who are in a similar situation and I believe there are a few forums dedicated to miscarriage survivors. I'm so very sorry for what you are going through right and wish I could give you a big hug. Take time and be good to yourself and be sure to talk about it a lot, it helps to know that you are helping others too.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 25, 2013 1:33pm

i had nearly the exact same expirence, from the major bleeding, unlike anything i could have imagined, and i also had to go through the dr pulling out what she could with tweezer like tools. very painful, mentally and physically. my bleeding slowed down alot about 2 days after my d&c, i was still quite sore for about a week after wards, but i was given a prescription for pain meds and it helped alot. its a hard thing to go through, take all the time u need to process it all, and dont feel the need to explain it to anyone until u are ready. praying for u

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Answered by lyssa787 - Mar. 25, 2013 1:25pm

I don't have any answers for you, but I wanted to let you know that my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I think we all have a lot to learn from the bravery of you and other ladies who have been through miscarriages. Thank you so much for sharing your story, and I hope you find the answers you are looking for!

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Answered by Maybebaby - Mar. 25, 2013 1:22pm

I'm so sorry for your loss, there is nothing anyone can say that will lessen your pain! I lost my baby girl 1 and a half weeks ago at 33 weeks and chose to deliver naturally, they say that it gets easier with time, but I have found it only gets harder. I think it's terrible they put you in the maternity ward, it's very hard to deal with a loss when u can hear everybody else's new borns crying! I ended up asking for a radio so that I cldnt hear them! It sounds very traumatising the way it come about. Try and stay strong, sorry I couldn't be of any help!

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Answered by mumma1984 - Mar. 25, 2013 12:02pm

I kept on bleeding and was told to wait for my scheduled d&c. I was given a shot of morphine (it made me shaky and light headed). I was told the d&c would take about 15 minutes but ended up taking 1 hour, I don't know why? I will ask doctor tomorrow. I lost alot of blood and needed 2 units of blood but I was so weak they could not find a vain in either of my arms. They finally managed to get the blood into me and I started to feel better, but they put me in the maternity ward! I was so upset,I stayed in overnight but by the next morning I was all swollen from all the fluids they pumped into me. Im having trouble dealing with all this, how do I get past this sad time. It has now been nearly 2weeks I'm still bleeding not heavy but when will it stop? I keep going really pale and i dont know why? I just really want to be back to my old self. Thank you all for reading my story.

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