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Asked by Nickylou203

Q: Any one suffer multiple losses and this is their first pregnancy ?

I'm 12.6 weeks pregnant :) I had a few chemicals ,two early miscarriages at 7&8 weeks , and a blighted ovum with a d&c at 9 weeks. My road has been a long one and I wanted to have a baby more than anything .I had a sub chronic hemorage and placenta previa diagnosed early in this pregnancy .until this one I had never seen my baby on ultrasound .i posted the following on another forum full of women who have been ttc for a long time that I was on before getting pregnant .just want to know if anyone feels similar ? ..Its not what I expected .I know everyone says just enjoy it and be happy .And I am happy .Im just scared too.and I think for someone who has been through so much heartache I will never stop being scared .Every time they put that ultrasound or hb. Monitor on my stomach I hold my breath and the nurse tells me to breathe .I can't find anyone who has had any losses and is right around my point in pregnancy .Everyone is about to pop and just says it gets easier .Sorry to ve

This question was asked Aug. 7, 2013 7:14pm
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Answered by Nickylou203 - Aug. 8, 2013 2:15am

:) you guys made me feel so much better :)

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Answered by estone - Aug. 7, 2013 10:38pm

I had an earl chemical and then got pregnant 2 weeks later with mono mono twins I lost them at 15 and 18 weeks. When I was pregnant with my son last year, I was constantly worrying, I invested in a Doppler, which helped put my. Mind at ease. Hope this is your take home baby.

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Answered by redrouge - Aug. 7, 2013 8:37pm

i think been pregnant is the first lesson in life on how u worry as a mother.i have 2 healthy children this is my 3rd preg so far so good and i still hold my breath everytime i go for a scan or doctors appointment..the worry is sickning.your not alone i feel the very same.the best of luck

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Answered by kelliers - Aug. 7, 2013 8:21pm

It was very hard to watch our friends get pregnant so easily, though, and I completely understand those emotions. We also felt extreme guilt for feeling jealous and angry that it was happening to people we loved but not us. All of it is normal.

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Answered by kelliers - Aug. 7, 2013 8:20pm

I didn't miscarry but we were told to begin preparing for a life without children. My husband and I had been doing fertility treatments for a year and a half. It was very hard to not worry that something would go wrong because it always felt too good to be true but I made it a point to celebrate every week with a photo and to make the milestones special, like the gender reveal. At first my husband was worried we would get immersed in all that joy and just have it taken away from us but I think it really helped us pass the time and gives us positive things to look back at instead of just how worried we were the whole time. We are 19 weeks now and he is just coming around from that. After I made it to 13 I committed myself to enjoying it. When I was struggling with infertility, though, and everyone told me it would pass, I found myself very sad and misunderstood and lonely. A meditation journal really saved me. It had guided exercises-perhaps there is a mc one.

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Answered by Maybebaby - Aug. 7, 2013 8:17pm

I am currently only 6 weeks, I completly understand where u are coming from, I have suffered a early miscarriage and I have lost a baby at 33 weeks due to a genetic disorder, if I get to 12 weeks these will be my options
1- have an amnio at 16 weeks to check for genetic disorder
2- don't have the amnio and be constantly worried sick, with no chance of connecting to the baby or being happy

If they pick up "soft markers" of a genetic disorder I will definatly get the amnio, but if they don't, I will have to decide we there getting the amnio is worth risking my babies life.
I honestly don't think I will be happy or relaxed till I see a healthy baby in my arms, but I have chosen to see a counsellor because being pregnant alone is a hormonal emotional mess let alone having extra anxiety.
I wish u the very best with ur bub brightest baby blessing

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Answered by kshives1027 - Aug. 7, 2013 7:50pm

Oh my gosh. That is very scary. I am sorry you had to go through that. You have every reason to be worried. It is a natural response to what has happened to you in the past. The only advice I can give you is to try to work through it. I have a journal that I write in and that seems to help me, but I have always loved writing and it helps me vent. Maybe find an outlet for your worry and fears.

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Answered by Nickylou203 - Aug. 7, 2013 7:39pm

I don't feel like this all of the time .Most women aren't happy at all when they get pregnant ! Lol . I just know mine is because of a different thing .I had a d&c got very sick was in killer pain even on the strongest pain pills it took three days ,blood clots the size of golf balls ,ad a fever for my doctor to see me because he thought I wanted more pills .I had to rush to the hospital and have a second d&c because I had an infection and pieces left in there .I had never had surgery or been in the hospital before that so to say the least ---it was traumatizing .

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Answered by kshives1027 - Aug. 7, 2013 7:26pm

I have had multiple miscarriages, but fortunately, didn't have to have a d & c. I had a few chemical pregnancies as well. I think that anyone that has experience pregnancy loss is worried about losing the baby once they have a successful pregnancy. For a while, I did the same thing, checking for blood and just really worried something was wrong. My doctor made me promise and agree with a handshake that I would not go to google and try to self-diagnose because it will, 90% of the time, end up making you worry more. I am 19 weeks and I still have those worries in the back of my head but they aren't as bad as they were in early pregnancy. You may want to talk to a counselor about your fears. It may help. I am here if you need to talk for sure.

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Answered by Nickylou203 - Aug. 7, 2013 7:17pm

Got cut off-----ð??¢Sorry to vent here .I just don't have anywhere else too. Everyone else gets pregnant and instantly become #superhappy #mommy #cantwait #inlove and I feel like #scaredtodeath #trytobreathe #isthebabyokay .I feel like my true happiness was stolen and now I get anxiety filled happiness .Everyime I go to the bathroom I check for blood ,every cramp or pain sends me to google ,and every night before an appointment I dream my babies dead .I really want this .I love my baby and I can't wait for this feeling to go away .I meditate ,talk to my belly ,and do everything I can to make this special .vent over ://

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