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Asked by sally28

Q: IVF or adoption?

Hi everyone. I hope everyone is fine. I recently came to know that I am infertile. I have been tried to conceive for the last 3 years. I took some medicines and every possible treatment to conceive naturally. Nothing seemed to work for me. I am now frustrated. I don't want to go through this pain now. I want to end this misery. I want to have a baby. I want happiness in my life. I am thinking of choosing an alternative now. But I am confused. I don't know what should I do. Should I go for surrogacy? Or adoption is a good way too? What do you guys suggest me?

This question was asked Apr. 8, 2018 12:22pm
Category: Pregnancy Complications

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Answered by satashajones - Jul. 5, 2018 9:16pm
hi hun. I am so sorry you are suffering. ill pray things get better for you. no need to rush. you will conceive soon. the difference in both is that. s adoption is a huge responsibility. you have to be really determined by your decision. you gotta treat the like it is yours. you should never regret doing this. on the other hand. surrogacy is having a baby y surrogate other. it will not be from your womb. hope it was helpful. take care. bye

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Answered by Emily28 - Jul. 5, 2018 7:14pm
Hello. it is really painful to be infertile. I know it's a hard time for you. Dealing with infertility is a hard time of life. Same was the case with me. I had Uterine polyps disease which left me infertile. When I first heard about that I was so sad that I can't express my pain in words. Anyhow, that was the toughest part of my life. I wouldn't lose hope. I and my husband decided to go for Surrogacy. We went to Europe for the Clinic. They found us a healthy Surrogate. We have a baby girl through Surrogacy. Now we are deciding to have another baby. Surrogacy is a blessing indeed by which you will have your own biological baby. I wish you the best of luck.

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Answered by Isla28 - Jul. 5, 2018 5:38pm
Hi, Neither IVF nor any other thing. I would suggest you go for surrogacy. Surrogacy is best for infertile couples. IVF is also a good method. But, it is too painful. It is also very expensive. Surrogacy is less painful. It is also cheaper as compared to other. Surrogacy is mostly successful. I had also a baby through surrogacy. I was suffering from fatigue injury. I was trying to conceive. My family was not accepting me. But my husband assisted me a lot. Then I visited Europe for Surrogacy. Now, I have a baby.

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 5, 2018 3:53pm
Hey Sally! You are doing best. Hope you are doing great now. Your story and the way you conveyed is best. Infertility is yet difficult to suffer. But don't lose hope. It's not in your own hands. I think this happens to make you braver. More independent. I know this heartache. I've also gone through this. I opted for the IVF. IVF is the other best option you can opt for. I am really happy for you. I cannot explain my feelings in words. You just get my heart. I wish may you grow more and have a great life. Take care.

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Answered by Hayleh - Jul. 5, 2018 3:52pm
Hey Sally! You are doing best. Hope you are doing great now. Your story and the way you conveyed is best. Infertility is yet difficult to suffer. But don't lose hope. It's not in your own hands. I think this happens to make you braver. More independent. I know this heartache. I've also gone through this. I opted for the IVF. IVF is the other best option you can opt for. I am really happy for you. I cannot explain my feelings in words. You just get my heart. I wish may you grow more and have a great life. Take care.

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Answered by marcella12 - Jul. 5, 2018 3:39pm
Hey Stella. Many of us go through infertility. I have been scrolling through these forums for so much time. and all I ever come across is people looking out for help. You should know that we are all with you. All of us here are in this together. Medicine has made many advancements. Despite being prohibited in many countries, it has a high success rate. I have heard a lot of success stories. And it has brought smiles on so many faces. Try out for it. You shall find luck. Think. make your decision. Stick to it. We are with you. Cheers.

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Answered by stella009 - Jul. 5, 2018 1:48pm
I hope you are doing fine. Don't worry. Everything will be fine. My friend was infertile. She faced it for 7 years. In this time she ttc for so long. But after no result, she went for IVF. It was good to choose. but she miscarried and then never conceived. In the end, she thought about adoption. But her husband wanted own genetic baby. They chose surrogacy. They have a baby now. They went to a clinic in Europe. They have a healthy baby. Se just turned 9 months now.

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Answered by rihana012 - Jul. 5, 2018 1:27pm
Hey. I am so sorry. Infertility is hard to overcome. Many couples are coping with it. I am not in favour of adoption. IVF is a great procedure. Youcan have a genetic baby. In adoption, you have to bring up someone else baby. So I am not in its favour. Secondly, IVF is a risky procedure. It is not so successful procedure. Many people avoid these. They choose surrogacy. Surrogacy is the safe and successful procedure. I hope this would help you.

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Answered by merry234 - Jun. 26, 2018 3:10pm
I am really sorry to know that you are infertile. Infertility is not an easy thing to accept for a woman. I hope you have enough love and support from your family and friends. But I am glad that you are thinking of moving forward and thinking of surrogacy or adoption. I suggest that you should talk to the doctors. If they think that you are applicable for the surrogacy procedure, you should choose surrogacy. Yes, you would not be carrying the baby. Another woman will be. But at least there will be some part of the baby that makes it yours. Good luck with whatever you decide. I hope it ends in the best possible way.

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Answered by jennyjoe - Jun. 26, 2018 11:40am
I am so sorry for your pain. This can be a very tough time to get through. I can imagine. I wish you didn't have to face this. However, please stay strong. I know its hard, but you need to. It's a good thing you're willing to look into your options. Surrogacy and adoption both are great methods to get your happiness. I think they cost around the same as well? In the end, it really is up to you then. If you feel you'd prefer a biological connection to your child more, then surrogacy is the obvious way. There are great clinics in Europe. They are budget-friendly too! I wish you all the best!

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