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I'm currently 19 and 8 months preganant and working two jobs to be able to pay all my bills such as, rent, electric, car insurance, me and my boyfriend's cell phone bills,and gas to get from one job to the next. All I do pretty much is work and sleep, and it's making me super depressed. and he does nothing but sit around all day, and that wouldn't be so bad except for times like today, when he texts me asking me to drive him somewhere and I tell him I don't have the money because I just paid the car insurance and don't get paid again until Thursday, and he sits there and calls me a liar and that I just don't want to do anything for him. And this isn't the first time he says things like this to me. I just don't know what to do, I do everything I can to make him happy, and he NEVER sees it and it's driving me crazy and just making me feel even worse /: Sorry I know it's long, Im just so hurt, that he makes me feel like I do nothing right.

This question was asked Mar. 27, 2012 8:03pm
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Answered by littlebearheeler - Apr. 11, 2012 9:21am

Ask yourself this, how can he be a good father and provide for his child when he can't even provide for himself? What your describing is not a man at all but a boy that knows how to manipulate you. You may love him with every bone in your body but keep in mind that it's not just your life your deciding for now, you have a child to think about. What's going to be in the best interest of the baby? If there is one thing I have learned, it's that men come and go but your child is forever.

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Answered by kawaimichiko - Mar. 30, 2012 2:28am

Wish the best to you... I think in your mind you know what you need to do.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 28, 2012 4:28am

Do you qualify for any sort of assistance? Like food stamps, WIC, etc? If you haven't looked into that, I would if I were you. It may help at least take some of the pressure off of you. My husband just lost his job, but thankfully was able to get some unemployment and he drives me to work, does errands and cleans around the house when I am at work. I am sorry to hear that he is not being supportive of you. Hate to say it, but I agree that you may be better off without that negativity in your life. If he can't be there doing everything he can for you (even though he is not working--there are other things like cooking, cleaning and laundry, etc). I would worry about him just being a bigger burden once your little one arrives.

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Answered by a guest - Mar. 28, 2012 3:15am

You sound like a mature women and very independent which is awesome but you do not need a man that sits around all day doing nothing. You are 8 months and shouldn't be working like that at this point. I understand that you may love him dearly but what REAL man will sit around and let is lady work and stress out the way that you are? If he is not willing to change for the better than I do believe you will be fine alone because if you really look at your situation you are already doing everything alone. I really hope things work out for you and get better, you really do not need this nonsense at this point your baby will be here soon/

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Answered by stephpsu10 - Mar. 27, 2012 11:12pm

Sounds like you got TWO babies on your hands. Not trying to pry, but you have enough on your plate that you shouldn't have to be supporting him too!! I'm not saying that HE should be supporting you because I was raised to know how to hold my own as a woman, but wow! It seems like you're an independent girl, a decent head on your shoulders, and you'd be better off without his dead weight. Just speaking from experience of a few friends of mine.

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Answered by a member - Mar. 27, 2012 8:38pm

I agree. You have enough to worry about without having to do everything for him too. He should be the one working two jobs so you can rest and get ready for the baby. What's going to happen when the baby comes? Is he just going to avoid all responsibility then too? It's up to you how to handle this relationship (since you have a child together obviously you will always have to deal with him to some extent) but I think you might be better off without that dead weight in your life. You do everything you can to make him happy, but what does he do to make you happy? It sounds like he doesn't do squat! You and your baby deserve better!

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Answered by a member - Mar. 27, 2012 8:38pm

He doesn't work, but I drop him off at the library on my lunch break and he tells me that hes applying for job, but somehow hasn't gotten any calls back? I don't know, and sometimes I think I wanna be alone, I just love him so much you know? And I really wanted us to be a family, and work it out for our little man. Maybe I'm just hoping for too much. /:

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Answered by ktjones1 - Mar. 27, 2012 8:28pm

LOVE you need to stop working yourself so hard. Does your bf not work? He needs to get a job and contribute to your growing family rather than mouching off of you! That is a shame for his g/f to be working two jobs while 8 months pregnant!

I hate to say it but you may be better off alone. He doesn't seem like the greatest guy. You however, seem like a strong, hard working, LOVING, person.

I wish nothing but the best for you and I hope things turn around for you soon. Keep your head up love.

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