Questions & Answers

I do not believe there is anything wrong with having a baby shower per child. It's a great way for friends and family to get together to celebrate a new life. Maybe, like said by others, do something different for each child to make it unique and to keep it fun. either tell everyone not to bring anything or having everyone only bring whats absolutely needed like diapers, wipes, formula,even something for the nursery (wall hangings and other decorations) and maybe even clothes, if your 1st born was a boy and now ur expecting a girl. keep things interesting!

Its mostley a southern thing. It's 1 shower per family. It mostly liek you shoudlnt need anything on yoru 2nd kid type of thing. However, I agree it shoudlnt be a big deal. If you and yrou family want to do a shower per kid it should be fine. I want big shower but were int he military so my families in 4 different states lol nwo thats hard to do becaus ei dotn want travel accross country lol.

I think is perfectly ok to have a shower for each baby. I mean you dont just celebrate the birth of one of your kids , you celebrate them all :)

I am having a shower for this pregnancy (my second baby) but that is mainly because my first is nine and I had long since given away most of the things I had (and a lot got left behind in my divorce as well). I wasn't planning on having one to be honest but my sisters decided I had to have one and planned it all out.. I just got my invitation to it LOL.

I don't see the problem with having another shower for a different gender (long as you aren't asking for special pink/blue car seats strollers/bedding or whatnot) or having diaper parties; or like the one lady posted, because the family lost everything in a disaster. However I think a lot of people feel compelled to get a gift if they go to a shower, so if you really don't need anything I would make sure to specify that.

I was going to say something similar as the very first lady who replied, I was going to say that every time I see a question like this is just seems so odd to me, it has to be due to where these women live because here in Michigan it's common and very welcomed to have a baby shower per child. I have never heard of anything like this until I joined this site. You are having a shower for that baby that is coming into this world, it's not like you are celebrating the same pregnancy/baby multiple times. Idk but this just seems really weird to me because here where I live, it would be odd to not have a shower for each baby.

jkim..Well put! :)

this is my second baby, I don't expect a shower however we will probably have a meet the baby get together after they are born and I know some will bring gifts but thy won't be asked for them. With my first I had three surprise showers thrown for me and one welcome baby party after he was born. I had no part in planning other than being asked how long after baby was born we were comfortable with having the meet baby party. I think if a friend or family member plans a party that is different than initiating one for yourself. I do think a diaper and wipes party is a good idea maybe a hen party for the girls and a party night for the guys with donations of diapers and wipes welcome maybe. I also think meet the baby gatherings are great and people don't feel pressured for gifts but are likely to give something. Good Good luck and best wishes

As this is my first little monkey and since I do not want or expect a shower for any additional children, I made sure that any larger items on my registry are completely gender neutral. I completely agree with the idea of community and having an opportunity to come together as a family but there are lots of ways to do that. And Of course there are exceptions,One of my DH's cousins had two babies fairly close in age (different genders), but between baby 1 and 2 they lost their home and everything in a hurricane....I had no problem at all when a shower was held for baby #2 because that was a special circumstance. One of my aunts had a teenager and got pregnant with her new husband...so a second shower in that case made sense too. There are always exceptions. But I know some people who have had back-to-back babies, same gender, who still expect showers...to me, that's tacky.

knicole..if i knew more people out here..we would have a double shower..lol Thanks for your response chica
Britany..I see your point...and valid when looked at that way. :) Thank you

I see where people think "tacky" . If you are expecting gifts... All of my family and friends (which live far) use this moment for a gathering reason. :) We thrive more in the unity more then the gift opening/receiving. I guess it depends on who you surround yourself with. If they know you..and know that your getting together for the celebration of life...then gifts are not what comes to mind when it comes to a shower. What ever happen to "it takes a village to raise a child.." Yes we are having the baby, with open arms invite others to help in certain areas..maybe that be with diapers and wipes, baby sitting, car pooling kiddos to school, showing up to graduations.In a material world it's easy to associate events with gift giving. So I understand the thought of tacky, or greedy.I think that could label some,but not all. Your not the only one that thinks that way tho..which is why I asked. :) i thought it was just the blog I read. Thanks for your honesty. ;) Food f