Questions & Answers

Ask yourself why you are with him???? If he does this to you, how do you think he is going to be with the baby. He could really harm you and you could end up losing your baby. Is that what you want? He's NOT going to change, he's always going to be the man that he is ABUSER. Get out while you can. I wouldn't even threaten that you are leaving, cuz it could cause more problems and he could snap. I would just pack up and leave when he's not around. I would even file a police report, then at least you have something on file and maybe get a restraining order to protect yourself. I know it's easier said then done, but you don't need to live like that and put yourself and your baby in harms way.

Only one option in this situation.. LEAVE HIM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

best of luck hun,i will pray for u,please do the same for me

I agree completely with the post prior to mine. My ex cheated on me when I was pregnant and it was with his ex wife. I had that gut wrenching feeling and I ignored it. 4 years later I had finally had enough. He wouldn't work and I found porn everywhere and a pair of womens panties in our house. Guys like this do not change and won't. They don't care how much they hurt you. They get off I think on the manipulation that they can make you feel how they want you to. When I finally kicked him out, there were no tears the 3 weeks prior. He slept in the living room and I locked my door. I think deep down he knew but he was just hoping that he would be able to change my mind. No such luck. I changed the lock when he wasn't home. Needless to say I was scared when I told him over the phone what I did. He threatened me & I called the cops and got an EPO. He has been gone now for 4 years & has not seen our son...he is a piece of crap & my son is better off without him. If you need to t

i have been in that type of relationship before too..1 thing i can say is stand your ground!! letting him see you upset and crying wont do anything for the situation, men like that dont care about emotions, so just leave. my bf always knew i was being serious if i packed my things while dry eyed. if im crying and blubbering he knows i dont really want to leave. talk to him seriously, just calmly and firmly say " you dont treat me right, im going to ****'s house to think things through" when he sees he didnt cause you emotional pain he will feel unsuccessful. men like that need a sense of power over their women, whether emotional or physical they will overpower. when you stand up and show him you are a strong and capable women, you will not curl up and hide, you dont need the love of a man like him, it will shatter his power and you will be the one in control. of course,if he were to hit you or anything violent leave ASAP!! you shouldnt be in a relationship like this

No advice I can give you will make this any easier on you, just wanted to wish you the best of luck for whatever you do. I'm in a similar situation and I know how impossibly hard it is to deal with. I know my baby certainly deserves better than this and so do I, I try and keep this in my head and try and gain strength from it. xxx

why don't u just leave cos its not that easy and some woman are not as strong as others
sorry ran out of room,
I really hope you find the strength and courage to get some help.
take care.

He will never change and the longer you stay the harder it is too leave, trust me I know if he hits you whats stopping him hitting your child when its older, its very very hard to get up and leave especially in your condition, my best friend was in same situation and it took her quite a few years after 2 children and trips to the hospital she left many times and came back, they have been split up for a year now and it was the best thing she ever done for herself and her children, she has finally got a life.
I myself am in a similar situation tho he doesn't cheat or hit me, he does be verbally abusive and throw things all though its only once in a blue moon its still wrong and very scary I have 3 children myself and 1 on the way, I know he wont change and I always say if he ever hit me or the children I would leave, but ya don't know until it happens, it took my eldest sister 15 years to get out of a abusive relationship, so there is really no point in people saying to you why dont u

It is NOT OKAY for him to hit you, ever. If he does hit you, or abuses you emotionally/mentally (which can be just as painful as being physically abused), you need to leave him. You're pregnant - think about how your baby will be affected by all this. If he won't even answer a simple question of 'where were you?' without threatening violence, then how will he cope with the stress that a baby places on a relationship and a household? I totally understand how it is to love someone who is not good for you - it's the most difficult thing, but you have to put your baby and yourself first here. I don't know your situation in detail, and I obviously don't know your husband, but from what you said, he sounds like an a**hole. He has cheated before, like you said, and now he might be doing it again while you're pregnant, he threatens you and sounds like an angry kind of person. You should ask yourself if this is really what you want for your baby, and for your future.