Questions & Answers

Massive huge thanks to everyone who answered! You're all great, thanks!

If you decide NOT to keep the child, do not tell him you pregnant. There is no point in causing an uncomfortable situation for any of you. Only tell him if you decide to keep it. If that is what you decide, just tell him. Call him if he will answer your calls or write him a letter. Be prepared for him to be doubtful or claim the child is not his. No matter how nice of a man he is, that is always a possibility when you have split up. Don't beat around the bush with it, just say "look, I know we are no longer together, but I recently found out I am pregnant and you are the father" has a new girlfriend so it is unfair of you to say you should be together. Try to keep the convo civil, and not demanding. I was in this same situation 12 years ago so I'm giving you the benefit of my mistakes. I went in with the expectation that he would know I was being truthful and that he would be eager to be involved, I was wrong. Luckily I miscarried so I never had to deal with him a

My boyfriend and I have decided to have an abortion a few years ago. I was 22 and he was 28, we were both still in school, living with roommates and living off financial aid. One of the best decisions I ever made. Now he has an amazing job, we have our own place together, and our relationship is in a much better place!

Outweigh the good against the bad. If I had had that baby a few years ago I wouldn't have been able to finish school, possibly move out on our own, and the list goes on.

It's a big commitment so really think it through!

Hi, I totally feel for you and your predicament right now, if it was me I would tell him, if he is old enough to have sex with you and to make a baby then he is old enough to face responsibility for his actions it takes two to make a baby so deffo tell him, don't worry about what his girlfriend thinks you and the baby are what is important right now and at least you would be giving him the option and if he can't face the responsibility then it is his loss not yours.

Whether to keep the baby or not only you can answer that but remember a lot of young girls have done it before you and are amazing mums sure its difficult but they cope and when they see their babies grow and see all their firsts they know its worth it and just because you have a baby young doesn't mean you can't go on and do other things a lot of single mums are very successful in life. Do you have family that could help you out or close friends that way you are not alone.

Good luck to you whatever you decide xxx

Hi!! Good luck with the decision ahead. If you decide not to keep the baby, please remember that adoption is also an option! There are thousands of people waiting to love and raise a precious baby. I pray that God will guide you in your decision :)

I agree with these ladies- first decide what you're going to do. I was 16 when I got pregnant with my daughter, 17 when I had her. Her father walked out on me before I hit 3 months pregnant, and I did it all by myself. I met my DH when my daughter was 16 months old, and he has been her Dad ever since. If you have a good support system within your own family, it makes it 100x easier. I finished my grade 12, and went on to finish a college course at night, while still working fulltime to support my daughter. But don't base your whole decision on what the father might do or think, if you have to, let him walk away. Think of what is best for you and the baby! If you ever need to talk, feel free to inbox me :) Best of luck!!

1st thing is u gotta decide if u keeping it
and dont feel u cant cause ur young and he will hate you
if you do decide to get rid of it then it cause it best for you
and being a single mum is not a bad thing yes it will be tuff at times but well worth it
i know alot of single mums that do really well and if he cant except what happend then screw him
he will miss out in the end

I agree, the first thing you have to decide is wether you are keeping bubbs or not :) How young are you? I was only 18 when I got pregnant. Im now 19, 21 weeks pregnant and I cant wait until I have my baby. If you know you will be a good mum, then age doesnt have to matter :)
Why does it matter to you honey what his new gf will think? It hasn't got anything really to do with her..
I think the only way to tell him is to tell him, I know thats not much help, but you have to be straight up. What about a letter? A phonecall? I probs wouldnt text him but the others may work if you dont want to talk to him face to face :) Feel free to message me anytime okay :) good luck and take care :) xx

I think that you should first decide whether you will go thru with the pregnancy or not. You'll have to consider that if you do, you may be doing this alone. If you can accept that I think you should let the father know. He may not be happy but that's something he needs to face when you have sex. I wish you lots of luck my dear.