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Asked by LyssaBugg

Q: Why does this bother me so much?

My boyfriend and his best friend meet up every Saturday for dinner and video games. They go to have this burger, it has bacon, fried egg, and peanut butter on it. I've gone two or three times. I LOVE IT.

Now, I know it's their thing but I hate that I'm never invited, I've not been in 6+ weeks. The worst part is that I don't think it would bother me at all if the place was in town but it's a half hour to forty five minutes away- a decent distance. It's a burger that I got introduced to, love, and now I like can never get it.

I get plenty of time with him, I'm basically living with him, but something about this bothers me.

Now, his friend doesn't have a girlfriend. But I think that if he did, he would bring her every single time, and I think my boyfriend doesn't because it's their thing.

I don't know why not getting invited hurts so much. I don't even want to go every week, but occasionally would be nice. Now when I finally do go again I'm going to feel unwanted.

This question was asked Oct. 27, 2012 10:57pm
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by kelsamagoo - Nov. 15, 2012 8:17pm

Ask him to bring the burger back with him!

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Answered by LyssaBugg - Oct. 29, 2012 1:34am

It is totally about the burger, lol. When they skip the burger I like the alone time lol. Never thought pregnancy would make food so important. I've been craving beef and not being able to keep anything down doesnt help. Thanks :)

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Answered by ginabee - Oct. 28, 2012 11:09pm

Like the other posters said, he probably just doesn't invite you because his friend is single, and it's their time to just hang out and be guys. If you want a burger, why don't you just tell him you've been having a craving and see if he'll take you to get one next time.

Don't let it bum you out that he's not inviting you, it's good to have some independence in a relationship, especially if he spends most of his time with you outside of those nights and you know what they do is completely innocent! Do the same, hang out with some girl friends and enjoy it while you can :)

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Answered by -Lee-B - Oct. 28, 2012 8:09pm

I wouldn't worry about his friend not liking you. He may just not think to invite you, I think you mentioned he had no girlfriend. As well a lot of single people can't stand being around couples...just reminds them what they are missing. So his friend may like you but prefer to just hang out with your husband so he doesn't feel as alone.

We have some fancy burger places like that here...but I have not yet been brave enough to order the ones with peanut butter and eggs! There are well over 100 weird burgers to order...but I stick to the ones that are a little more normal!!! But I can totally see how you are craving such a thing mmmmmmm burgers.

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Answered by Bostonmama08 - Oct. 28, 2012 3:06pm

Can't he bring you home a burger? You could ask him that. It sounds like you are just upset because you wanted a burger....and being pregnant is totally understandable for wanting food...and wanting it NOW! LOL. I'm glad you're not upset with your boyfriend for spending a little time with his best friend, because we all need that time. I spend time with my BFF without our hubbies and kids once in awhile....go get a pedicure or meet at Stabucks. It's a great release and gives us girl time. Guys need that too. It keeps us healthy people and keeps our relationships all around healthy.

Next time, tell him he needs to bring home a burger for you!! :)

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Answered by LalaRiley - Oct. 28, 2012 2:28am

Tell him you're craving it, and he will probably invite you along next time. He probably just doesn't realize how much you want it.

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Answered by LyssaBugg - Oct. 28, 2012 2:27am

Lol ya, I'm all for his guy night- but I do want that burger, and it makes me feel like his bestie has a problem with me. He really doesn't want it two times a week either =(. I think I'll try to get a girl friend to go like you said, it makes me sad though because I'd invite him if it was okay with my friend. (partly why I wonder if his friend has a problem with me). I think if I got invited I'd say no about half the time, it's just nice to feel wanted.

Basically I know I have the best boyfriend in the world (for me) and there's very little he messes up. He just wants to make every one happy and I think he doesn't want his best friend to think he'll blow him off for me.

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Answered by -Lee-B - Oct. 28, 2012 2:18am

Sounds like his guys night out fun time. Which is a good thing (could be off late at night at bars with who knows who)!

If you want that burger either ask him to go midweek sometime...tell him baby is craving it and you want it! If he's not keen to have it 2x in a week then find some girl friends and go on your own. I'd avoid going on his usual Saturday night time as he may feel you impeding on his guy time...unless he is fine with you and some friends going and having your own table.

I'd say have him bring you a burger home but with that long a drive time it may be a little mushy, and probably best to avoid hamburger out of the fridge for that long while pregnant!!!

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Answered by LyssaBugg - Oct. 27, 2012 10:57pm

Oh, btw, his friend is really nice to me. He doesn't act like he dislikes me.

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