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Carenda, my husband loves and respects me very much. And we have a great sex life, so it not that he has to go some where else for stimulation. I don't know why you would think because some men watch porn that is is disrespectful to their wives. Its not like going to pick up a damn hooker or something.... Its just porn, who cares?!

yeah i agree with you maggie the same thing happened to me. i hate the fact that he does it even though i really dont like it i find it very degrading for women. So i think ill just try to amp up the intimacy

I know this probably isn't what you want to hear, but most guys watch porn. It shouldn't affect the way you feel unless he's completely checked out and basically addicted to the stuff. Obviously he finds you attractive or he wouldn't be with you in the first place. I've known guys who watch things because they are curious about a certain act or like watching it happen, but would never in a million years want or ask their partner to do anything like that. Lying is never ok, and that should definitely be something you guys talk about but the porn shouldn't be a big deal.

I think it is most important to be open in a relationship and at least know where each other stand on the topic. Some women hate their partners watching, some don't, some even watch with - whatever takes your fancy. A relationship needs compromise if you don't like it going on. It's somewhat natural for a man to be curious about different things or watching (some men do not get turned on at all)... but I think the bottom line is I agree with lizzymommy... I would rather my partner watch porn, even if it disgusted me (I personally don't care for my own reasons) than go looking to get his end away somewhere else... Some ladies still think it's cheating - and that's where great communication is important. He may hide it because he is embarrassed about it... like a guilty pleasure... It's a hard subject - no pun intended. All I can say is be as open with each other as you can about how it impacts on you, AND him and work out what may need to happen

Id rather my fiancee watch porn then go out and cheat on me..so if he wants to watch oh well. most men are afraid of hurting the baby and my fiancee is one of those first time dads so if porn is what he has to watch then ok.. have a good day

all guys do not watch porn....my hubby does not like porn and never has. He tried watching it once when he was younger and just hated it, thinks it is disrespectful for men to even watch that stuff when they are in a relationship so I do not know what "ALL" these guys you are talking about JakieO....some men are actually respectful of their woman and don't need outside stimulation to get it up in the bedroom.

All men watches porn whether behind ur back or openly .. I don't think it's a big deal.. It's nothing compared to real sex.. They just do it for fun only.. He's not comparing u to them.. I think it's a normal thing.. However, the lying part is not nice.. My husband tells me when he watches porn.. Or if he watched porn.. I was annoyed at the beginning of our relationship that he watches them but u really can't stop them so I'd rather he tells me than watch them behind my back.. And I can tell he likes the real thing more because he wouldn't "want" me if porn was enough..

Just an add on: sorry if it's TMI. I actually walked in on DH by accident last night. We'd done our business no more than 20 mins prior. I went out to the lounge to have a drink and relax with a bit of TV and he stayed in the room. I walked in not to see the act but a summary of what he had been doing. I just said "i'll leave you to it" and walked out after grabbing my jumper. He actually came out really ashamed and said he felt like a kind of cheating.. Not because of what he was doing, but because of "being caught". It was interesting to see his side of it when I tried to explain to him I honestly didn't care and I meant what I said by leaving him to it. Perhaps my tone sounded disappointed. Hey I was a little because we'd just done the deed... but in my mind, boys will be boys, better this way than another lady in real life! (that's my opinion).
I urge you to ask him how he feels watching it. Like mine was, quite ashamed even though I said I didn't mind.

Wow, I'm shocked by the fact that most of you think it's okay if your husbands watch porn. I know my husband masturbates and have absolutely no problem with it but we've decided together that porn has no place in our home. We're Christians and we have the utmost respect for our bodies and each others'. It really is okay to have a problem with porn and don't let others tell you otherwise. We have a very healthy sex life without porn and we don't need it to spice things up. We have imaginations for that!!
Talk to your boyfriend about this again and really try to explain exactly why you dont want him to watch porn. If he loves you and respects you and understand why you feel the way you do, maybe he'll stop!! Best of luck to you!!

Just because he watches porn doesn't mean you're not good enough for him. He is just watching it to jerk off, I assure you he is not comparing you to porn stars as that is totally unrealistic. It's just something to fantasize to. The majority of men watch porn. I know my hubby does and guess what..so do I. We watch it together sometimes. In my opinion it is not a big deal at all and by no means do I watch porn because I think my hubby isn't enough or vice versa. As far as I'm concerned the only reason someone would be upset about their significant other watching porn is because of their own insecurities. He's not comparing you to porn stars, YOU are comparing yourself to them. It's just something to get off to.