Questions & Answers

First off congratulations! I know how youre feeling. Recently I tried to bite the bullet and set up a meeting to tell them I had something important to share, but they refused because they assumed I was trying to change their minds about my husband and his family. I eventually enlisted the help of my aunt, who told them for me and asked that they not call me unless it was to congratulate me. It took about an hour and they did. They're happy now, but it sucked not to tell them myself. Your parents will be happy, but you don't want them to take away your happiness by a negative reaction, so maybe a letter or a family member can give them the time they need to remember to treat you right, you deserve it.

If you need to talk to someone who gets exactly what you are going through, please dont hesitate to message me. I could use the support as well. I know excatly what you are going through and how you feel. Just be sure that like mamaof2soon3 said that you dont wait too long bc they will probably be more upset the longer you wait. I know I am going to have to tell my mother sooner than later... I know she will be wayyy more pissed if I wait till im about to pop to tell her. Plus it will get her used to the idea of baby for a while before baby actually comes. If you need someone to talk to before or after, just remember, you can always hit me up!! I wish you the best <3

I figured the best way to do it was to put it in a letter bc then it gives everyone time to think before they react. Mail it to them or leave it on their bed. Explain to them that you love them and u are terrified of their disappointment in you but you are happy. Tell them that you understand why they are upset (and TRY to actually understand) and that they are looking out for you and your best interest and then tell them that you are now a mother and are looking out for the best interest of your family. Dont say anything hurtful. just keep it sweet and straight to the point. let them know that you want to share your happiness with them bc this is a huge step in your life n u miss them. You need to also let them know that you want them to contact you when they are ready to TALK and not fight. You are their daughter and they love you despite your past arguements. They will come around. make sure they know u arent looking for their help, just their love...

I have the same problem. My mother has always been anti baby and she even cohearced me into an abortion when i was younger and then gloated every time i had a miscarriage. I dont want to tell her bc i know i will disappoint her and as a daughter the last thing u want to do is disappoint your parents. Its the worst feeling in the world. But, at some point, we grew up and they have to realize and YOU have to realize that you are an adult and you have to make your own life. They will be disappointed and tell you how stupid you are just like my mother will when I tell her but you just have to act grown when you tell them. dont act like the scared little girl. Act like a proud mama!! I know its easier said than done and thats why I am choosing to write ALL of my feelings in a letter to my mother after my 13th week. I am going to tell her how happy we are, how prepared we are, how much we are grown up and are capable of making our own decisions. We have to stand our ground.

My husband pointed out to me that I never answered your question..My response to him was...If she answers my questions with yes, yes and yes...then sharing it with them(your parents) will come naturally . .. Mom Dad..I have the best gift in the whole world I would like to present to you...bam..tell them your pregnant!

You are an adult. You make your decisions. Are you proud of your fiance? Are you proud of your pregnancy? Then proudly share it girl! If you worried about disappointment ... waiting for the whole pregnancy to come and go isn't gonna make them any happier. Unless thats what you want..to keep it from them for a surprise (a good surprise). Look.. as long as you are looking for their blessing..then your not doing anything wrong. We don't live for our parents when we grow up into adulthood.. Your priority is your fiance, you, then your baby. If you and your fiance aren't good..you cant be good for baby. (if thats what your trying for..to remain a couple and love the baby together) Your parents may not agree, but maybe one day understand that you were making your own decisions and only had good intentions in mind. Good Luck.