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Gender disappointment is real, and nothing wrong with it. I am on my 5th boy and had GD bad this time. Though in a few weeks I allowed myself to feel everything with out being hard on myself, and I am finally starting to get really happy about my little boy.

Men deal with disappointment different and do take a lot longer to get over. We as women get that chance to bond with the baby which makes it easier for us to get over the disappointment. So you just need to listen to him, let him talk and don't ever say anything about him being wrong for the way he feels.

If he still can not get over it once baby is here then it may be time for him to see a professional. But don't rush him and make sure you love him with this disappointment, and because of it. It will be very important for him to know that you love him even because of this battle going on in his head.

GL

If he carries on just tell him its his sperm the decides the sex of the baby and to grow up! He should be happy your having a healthy baby unlike so many people who lose theirs! I'd question him as to why he wants a girl so much too giving a reason might start the conversation you both need

I agree that he needs to talk to someone about his feelings towards a boy. As others have said, most dads are happy for a boy. My husband was over the moon when he found out our second was a boy. There has to be an underlying reason for him to not want a boy and he needs to work through that or at least begin to work through it before your son arrives. Besides that, it takes two people to make a baby so him being mad at you is just wrong. You didn't decide which gender you were having. There are so many people who can't have kids and would just be happy with a healthy baby. Hopefully, he adjusts to the news and you two can talk about why he is upset. Otherwise, definitely get him to talk to a counselor or something. Good luck.

Mine DH was disappointed that we didn't have a boy. He only mentioned it a couple of times while I was pregnant but I knew he really wanted a son (this will be his only child). I thought for sure that he would come around once Savannah was born and I thought that he did because he seemed really taken with her. Until... we were out one night by ourselves at a restaurant when she was about six weeks old. There was a little boy at the table next to ours, he was about 3 years old. My husband was watching him and then turned to me and said, "Promise me that Savannah will be as much fun as a boy would have been." I thought I was going to cry right there. I told him that she would be so much MORE fun than a boy would have been but I am not sure he was convinced. However now that she is four months old.. he is so completely wrapped around her little finger.. I am not sure he even remembers that he wanted a boy.

I've only really heard of men being "disappointed" when it's a girl so that's a little different. Perhaps some daddy issues? Here's the thing, I really don't want to judge too harshly here because I have known two people (both women) who were pretty bummed out when they found out the gender(one of them bawled her eyes out at the ultrasound). Having said that, they were bummed out for a day or two and then they got over it and actually got totally pumped for the gender they were having. Perhaps your partner needs a little time to adjust. Further more, most people, if disappointed by the gender, tend to take that to the grave and I think that's why it's so shocking for some people to hear that a parent-2-be would ever be unhappy even for a second about a gender. I agree though that he will lose that feeling when and probably before baby boy enters the world. Tell him to keep his opinion to himself and hopefully he'll reassure you that he's just being silly for now.

That is sooo sad! I guarantee he will change his mind once that precious little boy is here!

I agree with kelliers, he needs to talk about his issues. Maybe it's just a reaction as he thought it was a girl along, but he should be happy you are both having a healthy baby regardless of gender.

I don't feel his reaction to this is normal in the slightest, and best to get him to open up to you, if that doesn't happen or he hasnt come to terms with it try hey him to talk to someone else even a close friend or relative.

Honestly I think he needs to talk to a professional...that is not a healthy reaction for someone who is having a healthy baby. It's ok to be a little disappointed initially but his behavior is extreme.