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Just explain to him that you feel a bit jealous of his freedom. When he goes out try to arrange an evening after where you two have a night where you snuggle up and watch a movie or something, it helps. Also if you can tell him how you feel without crying then try writing it down for him

Thank you so much and obviously i have to ask someoone else for the support cause your right im clearly not getting it from the one person id like to get it from

He has all the wrong attitude! He can't just dump his seed and then make you do the rest! Hopefully someone else on here can offer another solution to try-I know there have been plenty of similar-minded men with the wrong attitude mentioned on here before. Try to remember that it's harder for them to grasp the reality they are becoming a parent because you are the one experiencing all the changes and it sinks in the day you get that positive line. Be sure to take care of yourself-keep eating well and get in plenty of walking and exercise so you can fight off some of those negative feelings. Seek out whatever emotional support you need-if he complains calmly remind him that you aren't getting it from him even though that's what you would prefer.

Im kind of close with his mom i mean i do with live with them.. But i always feel kind of weird talking to her about him cause he gets mad if i tell someone our problems, But i cant talk to him about them so i need to talk to somebody i need advice and support and its something im lacking very much of right now. He thinks that he made this baby and when i try and tell him no it was a group effort he doesnt get it. I didnt think he could be that uninformed about this but he is and trying to explain my hormones or my cravings or anything to him he just doesnt understand. I realize im in a bad position but i just dont know what to do anymore..

He shouldn't stop listening if you're crying! He should understand that there are a lot of hormones involved in pregnant and really, he should be doing whatever he can to make you stop crying because most men don't like to see their loves, especially when they are pregnant, sad. Maybe someone else needs to explain to him that he is being insensitive because he it shutting down when you try to tell him-are you close with his mom or a mutual friend who might be able to facilitate? I really hope that you can find a way to communicate with him because that's just not a good place to be! In the mean time, maybe spend some quality time with a sympathetic girlfriend and do something nice for yourself?

No matter how i put it though it always makes me emotional and i end up crying then he stops listening cause he thinks its all i do :/ and it doesnt help that ive been feeling really insecure lately

I would have been mad, too. My husband went out the other night and I told him it made me sad because I just felt kind of needy but that I didn't want to keep him home all the time either just because I'm pregnant. He knows I have trouble sleeping at night if he's not there so before he left he spent 20 minutes tucking me into bed and rubbing my back and then he agreed to be home at a decent hour, which ended up being midnight. It helped for me to be able to say that I knew it was unreasonable but I'm 34 weeks pregnant and just feel like I need him close and I was glad he was understanding enough to say that he could see why I'd feel that way being pregnant and that he offered a compromise so we could both feel our needs were met. If I were you, I would be upset, too. You should explain to him why it's hard for you even if it sounds silly to say it out loud. He needs to be willing to adapt to your needs-it's his baby, too!