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Asked by kaylia2oo5

Q: Anyone else's In-Laws being A**holes??

I've had troubles on & off with my in-laws over the years, but they're REALLY starting to get to me. When we had our son in 12, there was no congrats from any of them when we announced the pregnancy. We both work, we have our own home, vehicle, our life is completely stable.
Last year, my SIL has a baby and the whole family goes crazy. My MIL has been living with her since he was born (in OCTOBER) because she can't handle being a mother on her own. Yet she & her pregnancy was put on a pedestal!
We announced this pregnancy last night and not one of them commented, liked it, etc. My MIL was online asking who could plow her driveway out from snow, but couldnt say anything about the pregnancy.
I'm getting completely pissed with all of them, and personally would like to wipe them all completely out of our lives. I think one of the things that is influencing them is my SO has a daughter that he doesn't have anything to do with other than child support. Is this a reason to shun

This question was asked Feb. 8, 2014 11:15am
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Answered by JakkiGirl - Sep. 17, 2014 12:24pm

OMG I know exactly how you feel!! My mother in law doesn't even acknowledge my son's existence! It drives me absolutely nuts! My DH has 2 kids from a prev relationship and my MIL sees them every weekend, she has to drive past our house to get to theirs!!! She never pops in for a coffee, didn't even come round for my son's first birthday!! Yet now my SIL has had a baby and everyone can't get enough of her! I just don't understand it.

Honestly I could rant about her all day! So if you ever feel like a good session let me know ;)

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Answered by trailwalker - Feb. 20, 2014 11:59pm

My in-laws are a very small bunch with a lot of drama. So, we won't be announcing the pregnancy to them for a long time. Because of all the drama I LOVE not having them in our stable, peaceful life. Just think, if they are being this way, is this really who you want to have such a huge influence on your precious child?

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Answered by *Roselyn* - Feb. 9, 2014 2:54am

How are they with your husband? Do they have a normal relationship or are they the same with him as they are with you???
My in-laws are good, but sometimes they are too much for me. My husband's mom wants to be there when I'll be delivering the baby, but NO WAY it would work for me. I just wanna be with my husband. I'm just so glad we moved out of their house and live 1,5 hours away. When there is too much of in-laws it isn't fun either lol. So, maybe you are better off the way you are. But I do agree that it does suck that they won't even say Congrats on your pregnancy.
My SIL doesn't say much about my pregnancy, didn't say congrats, or anything. It was just weird. I came to the conclusion they are not well mannered people. I, on the other side, congratulated her with her new pregnancy and the baby she just had. I am not expecting her to even text me to say congrats when my baby comes now any day!

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Answered by dakotagurrl - Feb. 8, 2014 3:37pm

I can see why u would be annoyed, but maybe it's better that she's not making a huge deal out of it, now she wont be around/calling and pestering u everyday. Screw 'em, u dont owe them anything nor do u need their approval with ur pregnancy. If they wanna be douchebags, let 'em. This is their loss, not urs!!

My MIL wont friggin' leave us alone, she lives 4hrs away and still manages to get under my skin. She treats my pregnancy like we did this solely for her...I would love for her not to care...LOVE it!!

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Answered by kaylia2oo5 - Feb. 8, 2014 11:16am

my kids?? AND, before anyone bashes me for his mistake- please know I had NOTHING to do with his decision to not have anything to do with his daughter. I've dealt with enough feedback from that- there is nothing I can do, I've tried.

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