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Asked by kaylia2oo5

Q: Bi-Polar SO?

My SO and I have been together since 2006 (we took a year break in 2009 though). We have a 15m old son together, and he's raised my 9 yr old daughter as well. He has been diagnosed with Bi-Polar (it and other mental disorders runs in his family). The Dr put him on medication that he only takes when he feels like it. He's a complete asshole when he's not taking it and I honestly don't know what to do somedays with him.
I'm expecting twins now, and am always tired. I'm a work-at-home Mom and he thinks that just because our 15m old son favors myself over him (I mean I'm with him 24/7) that he shouldn't that much to do with helping with him when he is not working. Today he had off from work, and just laid around and did nothing. Whenever I ask him for help with anything, it's a fight.
Has anyone ever had any experiences like this? He just ignores whatever anyone says, and his family is just completely useless on helping the situation...

This question was asked Mar. 3, 2014 10:13pm
Category: Relationships During Pregnancy

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Answered by mkinney0518 - Mar. 6, 2014 3:57pm
My SO is also Bi-polar and has anxiety. He is currently not on medication and has no plans on starting any. I am 30 weeks with our first. When he first foudn out I was pregnant, his emotions would fluctuate so much it was like riding a roller coaster. He wold be excited one day and the next he would barely acknowledge me at all. I'd say the turning point was when I wrote on an ultrasound picture, I love you Daddy. He has been involved ever since. Just hang in there. some days will be better than others, and if you can, make him get on his medicine!

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Answered by Rainbowbaby92 - Mar. 4, 2014 4:30am
Have two more on the way.. Make him really think about the need to change his current situation.. Kick him out for a few days if you really have to.. Therapy will be key in helping control it.. Maybe even a short hospital stay to get it under control.. Good luck xx

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Answered by Rainbowbaby92 - Mar. 4, 2014 4:29am
Hey Hun, I can't help with having a so with bipolar but I myself was diagnosed with bipolar in my teens.. In terms of the laying round not doing anything.. It probably not that he's lazy and can't be bothered but if his bipolar is uncontrolled it may just be that he is so debilitated by what's going on his head that he just can't bring himself to do anything.. Mine is well controlled and I still have days like that..
I find my medication is key to me being able to function so if someone can convince him to take the meds it would probably help significantly (once stabilized which can take time)
Maybe organize some father son time.. Buy him tickets to take your son somewhere fun for the day.. Get your kids to paint him a picture saying how much they love him, have it framed so he has a visual reminder of the reasons to get out of bed and off his ass..
Drag him to therapy if you can.. IF all else fails put your foot down and tell him he needs to get his act together because you

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