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This is your Girlfriend at least she told you she was going to the first sonogram appt it is more messy than anything the heartbeat is the only exciting part give her a blank dvd and ask her if she can ask the sonogram tech to tape it you want see much until she is 12 weeks hopefully by then you can go be sympathic it goes alot futher in Florida if she dont want you at the appt or Birth that is Her right so patience is the key.

This is not her first child tho so I really honesty don't know what the deal is and what's goin on. But I would like to say thank you to everyone who answered this you guys have been very helpful in this situation and I'll keep updated on if I get to go to any of the sonos or not.

Don't jump to conclusions right away, she could be creaking out just as much. Sometimes newly pregnant or first time moms want to see the heartbeat before involving anyone else. I'm sorry she doesn't want you there, hopefully she will either change her mind or allow you at all future appointments.

Hey, she might just be freaking out and taking it out on you. An internal is when they insert something into the vagina to see if they can see the baby ( there is really nothing to see this early on normally just a sac looking thing. If I had an internal I wouldn't of wanted my husband there! He's not good with those kind of things either. Later on she will have a normal ultrasound and that's much more exciting and she might be more relaxed to have you around. As someone previously said hormones are going wild at the moment and I can honestly say sometimes I don't want my husband anywhere near me. Give her some time but continue to gently remind her you want to be part of it. Good luck I really hope she comes round. I wouldn't stress yourself out with lawyers just yet, just give her time, it sounds like she is early on and is probably just working her head round it. Some woman get very protective of their little baby growing! :)

There's no history and she went to the dr last Monday for blood work and they said she was but. The only reason I can think of her not wanting me to go is because she's hiding something and it's actually really not mine. That's the only reason I can think of. I've never been mean or rude or hurt her anything like that. But the first sono which she said was an internal on I'm not sure what that means is April 8th but won't tell me where or the time of it.

Father's rights vary state to state. I would have a consultation with a family law lawyer, most of them will do the first one free, and see where you stand according to the laws in your state. But i have to say, without hearing more about the situation, it seems a little fishy that your girlfriend doesnt want you anywhere near the sonograms. Is there some history between the two of you that is making her not want you involved? Do you know for sure that shes really pregnant? She wouldnt be the first woman ever to fake a pregnancy for some reason, unfortunately. If she is actually pregnant, and you're sure its yours, then i would talk to a lawyer now to find out what you need to do to protect your rights once the baby is born. I believe both parents have just as much right to see and bond with their babies. Good luck :-)

That's a very tough situation. There is a possibility she will change her mind. A lot of women go through some bad feelings toward their SO during pregnancy due to hormones. We can do a lot of out of character things while pregnant. Good news is we do go back to normal eventually. Continue to support her and try to be understanding to her feelings, but gently remind her that you do want to be a involved as possible. Hopefully with time she will become more comfortable and allow you to be more involved.

Thank you for the information even tho it's not exactly what I wanted to hear but. I have tried to talk to her and all she says is I'll tell you when I want you there at the sonos but I want to be at everyone of them and see my baby or babies possibly twins grow and it's just extremely hurtful that she doesn't want me there with her and won't give me a good reason why just says I just don't want you there and that's all there is to it.

I wish you didn't have to ask this question and that dads had all the same rights as moms but in these times it doesn't work that way. Unfortunately until the baby is born our laws don't really care what you want. Our laws basically say moms body moms choice period. Even after the baby is born unless she chooses to put you on the birth certificate you will have to fight for a paternity test as well before your rights as a parent are even recognized. Unless you have a lot of money for a attorney to fight for you and even then your in for an uphill battle that you probably won't win. Talk to your girlfriend try to explain how you feel. Her consent is really your only option. Sorry