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And so it begins...
By Starmama14 » Posted Jun. 13, 2016 9:21am - 878 views - 11 comments

When I was pregnant with my daughter - I was huge...I mean really huge! and I felt like it! I constantly heard "are you sure there aren't twins in there?" Or when I told people my due date they would just stare at me like "are you sure?" I was so sick of hearing that by the end of the pregnancy I thought I was going to scream when people asked me that. Not to mention, it made me feel really bad about myself! With this pregnancy, I've been eating a lot healthier, drinking a lot more water than I did last time AND taking walks. Overall, I feel really good and don't feel large at all. I do feel wider than I did last time but my belly doesn't feel as huge. Well, yesterday we went and visited my husband's grandma and his aunt was there too. His aunt asked me if they thought I would deliver earlier because I am so big....um yeah, I wasn't sure what to say to that. And then she asked "Are you sure there aren't twins in there?" WTH?!?! I calmly said "Actually, when we saw the doctor last time baby was measuring exactly right on - not larger and no, there aren't twins in there". I pretty much just cut her off. I really wanted to scream at her but thought better of it. My husband was in a different room so of course he didn't hear any of it but when we got out in the car I told him what she said and he was so mad! Ugh...his family was the worst when it came to saying this stuff last time. He said he's going to take care of anyone saying anything like that now so I don't have to listen to that for the rest of my pregnancy! I guess they just don't understand...I am SHORT so I am going to look pregnant...I am not tall like the other women in their family and they don't show as early. Grr.. Later that night we stopped by a friend's house to visit and our friend asked if I was due soon and I told her "no - October 4th is the due date" she didn't say much after that. I know she was just being polite and making conversation but man, I am starting to get a complex! LOL. Ugh. This is going to be a long rest of my pregnancy if I have to listen to this again. Any suggestions on how to handle these comments etc. without slapping someone?? :)

In other news, I see the high risk specialist again tomorrow to see if the complete previa has moved and to see if I have placenta accreta. Trying not to think or worry too much about either of those but focus on the fact that I get to see our little peanut again! I'll update more on Wednesday! Hope everyone else is doing good an hanging in there! :)

Comments for this Journal Entry

	Comment from ericalee » Posted Jun. 15, 2016 1:53pm OMG. I am so mad! I typed up a really long comment almost immediately after you posted this JE and then got some "503" error when I went to post it. SO MAD!!
	Comment from ericalee » Posted Jun. 15, 2016 1:53pm OMG. I am so mad! I typed up a really long comment almost immediately after you posted this JE and then got some "503" error when I went to post it. SO MAD!!
	Comment from ericalee » Posted Jun. 15, 2016 1:53pm OMG. I am so mad! I typed up a really long comment almost immediately after you posted this JE and then got some "503" error when I went to post it. SO MAD!!
	Comment from wifey1985 » Posted Jun. 14, 2016 11:29am Ugh, how awful that the people you should be able to rely on to make you feel beautiful are the ones making unnecessary comments. I agree that people just don't really seem to understand exactly how big a normal pregnant woman gets! I was lucky enough to avoid too many comments to my face about my body last pregnancy (I think because I look pretty unapproachable), but I remember my cousin telling me that my father-in-law had been talking behind my back about how much bigger my butt got. It was enraging, and frankly, super inappropriate. What is wrong with people? On a positive note, happy viability day :) And good luck with the scan! Fingers crossed for you.
	Comment from pbc910 » Posted Jun. 14, 2016 10:03am My strategy was always stopping people BEFORE they said anything stupid. Deflect, deflect, deflect. Once I told people there were 2, they sort of just lost focus and went on that tangent. Most people just don't think before they speak. The correct response should always be, "you look great!"
	Comment from Starmama14 » Posted Jun. 14, 2016 8:20am Thanks ladies for your advice and encouragement. You guys are all right...I wish people would really think about what they are saying to a preggo lady before they say it. All they really need to say is "You Look fantastic!" even if I don't...at least it will make me feel better LOL ;) Good luck to all of you as well :)
	Comment from Hopeforchildren » Posted Jun. 14, 2016 7:41am It bothers me a lot too - I could have written your post. We are on exactly the same page. This is by far my biggest pet peeve of my pregnancy. My own mom tells me I look full term when I'm only 8 months. Then she gets mad when I tell her I could use more encouraging words, because she isn't "trying to insult me". It is so frustrating. Everyone at work looks at me like I'm crazy when I say that I'm here til August 8th... They think I should have delivered by now. The midwife told me that people just aren't used to seeing me pregnant and people don't realize how big you truly get when 100% full term. I just tell people I'm measuring a week behind since I was at my last appointment. The dr can't be wrong. Idiots! But I have to be nice because they are probably throwing me a shower. UGHH these hormones.
	Comment from tmhess » Posted Jun. 14, 2016 7:39am I know how you feel, I am not one of those people that looks like they have a basketball under their shirt when pregnant. I am short and my entire midsection just gets bigger all around. I got very tired of being told that I was "carrying all around" or "carrying all over". I was told this by strangers and I always thought, gee thanks for telling me I look like I am just fat. We all carry our babies differently and people just don't think about how rude they sound. Like dakota said, women who don't have a very big belly wish they were bigger because people comment on how small they look. Other people just need to tell us we look beautiful and leave it at that. :)